You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Youre kiddin, right??!Originally posted by Blaster
How do u get a prettier face?
Working out can only tone your body, and you can only look so good (7/10). U need the pretty face to get into the 8,9,10 range.
So how do u do it?
Thanks, guys! U guys rock!
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Originally posted by Blaster
Thanks guys
Also, when you say "If you can afford it, buy something not coming from a drug store." what do u mean by that? Where else would I be able to find such products?
About any large store where girls shop. They usually have a "For Men's" section where you can find most product you need. Look at the ads in FHM, Maxim and other such mags for ideas on what brands to look for. I recommend the Decleor line of products if you can find it.
Also do you guys have ne examples of good-looking haircuts? (e.g. pictures).
also what are your opinions towards things like making your eyelashes longer, or using concealer...personally I think that's a little too fairyish, but maybe I'm wrong? what do u guys think?
It's just plain gay. Anything that looks, feels or acts like makeup is for queens and girls.
Thanks again, guys.
No problem
LOL!Originally posted by Soshyopathe
Absolutely no makeup. You think people won't notice, but damnit they will. Everybody notices everything, and if you ever get caught with makeup on, it's over. Personally, if I ever saw a guy at school and suspected makeup, I would tackle him right there, and start rubbing on it. If it's makeup, I'd beat it off him. If not, I'd just call it an aggressive hug.
I keep reading a reference to makeup. Is it honestly a new trend for men to wear makeup, or are you guys just being facetious?Originally posted by Soshyopathe
Absolutely no makeup. You think people won't notice, but...
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
A couple of things.Originally posted by KiLLer
Uh... that book you suggested... that woman in the book isn't so good looking herself...
And I think it's for old people only as they get wrinkles.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No. The cosmetics industry is trying to turn men into stressed-out, overly self-concious basket cases like they've done with women. I remember a few years back they were trying to say that nail colours and eyeliner would be the next big fashion statement for men. Fortunately this will NEVER HAPPEN, I pray. Taking care of your appearance is one thing but I don't want to end up like those girls who read Seventeen magazine.Originally posted by Capitol39
I keep reading a reference to makeup. Is it honestly a new trend for men to wear makeup, or are you guys just being facetious?