You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Existential said:Trying to be alpha is about the least alpha thing you can do. Intentionally trying to look alpha is definitely trying to be alpha.
Being alpha has nothing to do with how you dress, how you look etc, it's a state of mind...ie, it's something you project. If you want to look alpha then be alpha. How do you be alpha? You become authentically 'you' as you move through the world. You don't 'try' to be anything...you simply are. You engage the world on your own terms and do what is right for you and you do so unapologetically. You don't do this by wearing an expensive watch.
You missed the point. Dressing in a suit is NOT alpha. And, in fact, if it's not representing WHO YOU ARE, it's going to INCONGRUENT and NOT alpha at all.mackdaddy27 said:again.. its about looks only. if was talking about the theory on body language, on what matters more. that would be discussion for another thread.
and for the love of hoodia,
dont freakin tell me that dressing alpha is not important.
Its the suit that gets him into the mind frame-set just as well as having the internally belief system.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I agree it's how you think and how you hold yourself. An alpha male can appear alpha in a jean jacket or jogging pants!Existential said:Trying to be alpha is about the least alpha thing you can do. Intentionally trying to look alpha is definitely trying to be alpha.
Being alpha has nothing to do with how you dress, how you look etc, it's a state of mind...ie, it's something you project. If you want to look alpha then be alpha. How do you be alpha? You become authentically 'you' as you move through the world. You don't 'try' to be anything...you simply are. You engage the world on your own terms and do what is right for you and you do so unapologetically. You don't do this by wearing an expensive watch.
This reminds me of a guy I work with. The attire for everyone is "Business Casual" And believe me, we interpet that REAL fukking loosely. Well, this one supervisor shows up in his suit and tie, and catches HELL for it all day, from everyone, except the two managers who's asses he would probably lick corn out of after a good turd. "Oh you look great today, so professional" as he gets a hug, and a big ups from the Director, and his peers are making gag noises behind his back.Existential said:You missed the point. Dressing in a suit is NOT alpha. And, in fact, if it's not representing WHO YOU ARE, it's going to INCONGRUENT and NOT alpha at all.
Dressing alpha is dressing with what is authentically you. For some guys...sure that's a suit. For others, it's going to be a punk rocker look, for others, much more casual. For others, it's a top hat.
Take a confident, 'alpha' (I hate that word) guy, and REGARDLESS of what he wears he is going to project an 'alpha' image much more clearly than an AFC you put in a suit. Bottomline. So, again, I repeat, 'looking alpha' has nothing to do with what you wear, your jawline (I know plenty of pudgy guys who are 'alpha'), it's all about your attitude and WHAT YOU PROJECT.
Saying, "dress in a suit to be alpha" is completely misconstrued advice.
Now, if you wanted to make the argument that it's a two way relationship...dress in a certain way and it might affect your internal state. Well, that's a bit more tenable. Still, though, it is going to bring about SHORT RUN results at best.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So what happens when you actually run into a guy who is alpha, what would you do?mackdaddy27 said:I think you all missed the POINT OF THIS Thread.
its not about " How to Be a Real Alpha" Thread..
ANd opened thisi can of worms about..oh looks is not important, but the inside counts. Like I said, that is not the point.
Its What woud look alpha TO a WOmen SImply looking at a guy and nothing else.
What looks like it..height=status. ( point blank )
An alpha mane has a strong jaw , the leader of men Has a Strong Jaw and thats why ITS ATTRActive to women.
Short haircuts, makes you look like the leader of mean ..
THe suit extentuates the shoulders.. WHy ? All people of higher authority like generals Always have exteuduates shoulders uniforms think generals, commanders, business executives.
"oh , just wear whatever you want," and use lines and other states. No one is denying your higher level of thinking on this. But thats not the point, this is a real dumbed down just what loooks alpha
IT is Simply a Looks Thread. Body language says alot, but were not talking about internal states, whatever.
Interceptor said:This is still being attached to external factors to alter one's state of mind.
Becoming DEPENDANT on a factor, that is external, without the proper mind frame is building a hous of sand. It will blow away.
Emotional Strength cannot be faked.
getting state from a suit is probably the most Beta and weak notion that any male could advocate.
Again, like Francisco stated why take shortcuts in BEING a MAN?
Why would any guy truly desire to PRETEND?
Because he has no Identity or Self Worth.
That is not ALPHA.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yes, a suit to go have coffee. I think he might be a little under-dressed for everyday interactions. He should own a couple of tuxedos.HandyAndy said:a suit? for daily interactions?
Wait a second, isn't being Alpha attest to being a leader? How many Alphas are looking for acceptance from their peers? If they need acceptance are they truly Alpha?mackdaddy27 said:Pretend ? whose pretending ? If you FEEL alpha. You Dress Alpha. You take care of your looks so you are socially acceptable
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.