"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to know if the girl is a keeper!?

Cassify

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So i'm dating a girl right now and shes being WAY TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE.
i found this situation very weird because i never met a girl so "perfect" like that before...i talked about it with some close friends with details and they said that she is a good girl and a keeper!

i'd like to know you guys opnion...How to know if the girl is a keeper!?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"if an event is too good to be true...it's a trap"--katsuragi keima
well although keima has a point in that but sometimes a girl can be good and real...
now that aside...tell me how long have you been dating?
 

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well lol
we went out for 2 dates so far
but she only showed "good flaws"...thats why i'm so worried...
maybe i'm being too paranoid, but you gotta keep your eyes open you know...
 

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2 dates? that it? wait a bit more...
in the mean while don't be an AFC and keep things cool,if you think that she is a keeper you might end up putting her on a pedestal and BAM! friendzoned....
read the DJ bible...scroll down this page and click on dj bible....
 

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Dude you're not going to know who she is for real for two months, not two dates! Think of it this way -- if you see her once/week for two months you've hung out with her 8 times, which is hardly a lot.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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to be honest buddy i'm not afraid of being friendzoned...
i'm afraid of falling for her and further on discover that she is a super slut lol
 

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Cassify said:
to be honest buddy i'm not afraid of being friendzoned...
i'm afraid of falling for her and further on discover that she is a super slut lol
You're best bet is to SPIN PLATES...You can find out if shes a keeper by going on dates and all that yes...but make sure you're SPINNING PLATES.

Spinning plates will prevent you from: putting her on a pedestal,and falling for her when she could possibly be a super slut like you said....

I've learned the hard way. I fell hard and developed oneitis for a girl that i thought was perfect too. Turns out that she was a freaking slut who fvcked majority of the senior class in our high school.Don't make my mistake..
 

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Also here are some tips to know if shes a slut:
1.She has sex with you on the first date
2.She's bi-sexual
3.She admits to having cheated on her boyfriend or husband in the past
4.She has more male friends than female friends/ or claims she doesn't like being friends with a bunch of females, but prefers being friends with guys
5.She likes to hang out in clubs and bars

Ask her some of these questions on the next date like: do you prefer guy friends or female friends? Have you ever cheated on someone before ETC ETC.. You get the picture
 

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youngmack said:
2.She's bi-sexual
4.She has more male friends than female friends/ or claims she doesn't like being friends with a bunch of females, but prefers being friends with guys
5.She likes to hang out in clubs and bars
Wow think those 3 match with her...
during our conversation she said that girls are very competitive with each other and because of that she has more guy friends...

well i guess i should not take her THAT serious after all, right!?
 

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Cassify said:
Wow think those 3 match with her...
during our conversation she said that girls are very competitive with each other and because of that she has more guy friends...

well i guess i should not take her THAT serious after all, right!?
Well if you're enjoying her company, then it would be stupid to get all scared about it because of what some strangers say on the internet.

Do the same thing you'd do for any girl. Keep your eyes open, be realistic, and basically be a grown man about it.

How do you know when a girl is a keeper? I don't know....but it normally takes more than 2 dates to find out.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No women are keepers.

Start banging other chicks and you'll soon agree with me.
 

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What does she like for hobbies? If she is outdoorsy she probably does have more guy friends than girl friends. Doesn't mean she's a slut, just means the activities she enjoys tend to be avoided by girls. To me, if she's into hobbies I like rather than fashion, make-up, and chick television she is far more of a keeper than not.
 

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Like already said. Spin plates and wait longer. Don't put her up on a pedestal before you even properly know her.
 

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DonJuanabe said:
What does she like for hobbies?
well she likes to watch movies, play guitar, listen to rock music, go out with her friends, drink etc.
 

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i've never met a girl who's a keeper in my life so far. usually after a few dates, they show their true color.

no one is perfect including myself. so even a keeper can turn into a b**** if you lose your focus
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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In my opinion... you wont know for sure until time passes, What i mean by this is there is alot of factors that can come into play over time that can shift the relationship. Everything could be perfect for 1 year and you feel as though "this is the one" however during year 2 or 3 your financial situation gets strained, will that girl stay by your side devoted to you or will she slowly start pulling away? Will you let yourself go physically wise and she starts losing interest? Will she still do and say all the things she did during year 1? etc... and the answer to this is... You dont know because life can make a sudden left turn when you think your going straight and by that time.. you have developed feelings or even love for this woman and invested time that you cannot get back.
 

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Overall only time will tell !! Meanwhile SPIN PLATES,DO NOT put her on a pedestal and DO NOT over-analyze/over-think things... Also keep in mind the signs that I've mentioned to you !
 

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Youngmack coming through with some solid advice!! That a kid! haha




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Pimp-sicle said:
Youngmack coming through with some solid advice!! That a kid! haha




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Lol thanks bro, im 16 i wish i knew this much and found out about game/sosuave like a year ago...i wouldnt have this huge oneitis
 
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