How to keep things fresh for a week

[The Comeback Kid]

Last week, I went on a very casual first date with a HB8, which went rather well. I would say there was interest on both sides for a second date.

She went to a family function this past weekend, so once she was on her way back to school, we tried planning a second date for this week. It was going to be tough because we both have things going on. We tried our luck that a bowling date for Wednesday evening (tomorrow) would work, as she hoped there wouldn't be a group meeting for her class - she would know this by today. I called earlier tonight and, unfortunately, her group meeting for class was happening.

(Flake? Not likely. She was stuck doing a project when we were supposed to meet for our first date. We moved the date to two days later, and it worked out just fine. In fact, she showed up early and with a smile, and we had a very good time. Basically, this girl is honest and doesn't seem like one to play a lot of petty games.)

Anyway, back to what's happening now. I explained that I will be home this coming Thursday-to-Monday (internship), but I'm open to moving the date to sometime that week. The first day we're both free is...next Wednesday. She seemed excited about it, suggesting we'll meet up the moment she's out of class - I laughed and said she's allowed to put her books away first if she'd like. I gave her the time and place, she said that's "perfect!"

So my question is, how do I go about keeping in touch during the week-long wait? I figure a couple of playful, C&F texts, maybe a call somewhere in there, should work? I don't want to come off as needy/desperate or anything like that. At the same time, not doing anything won't look good either.

 

[HeyPachuco!]

Soz, Comeback!

Not related to the post, but there was a user on here who goes by ''military'' quotes and his username is reference to the military, he comments and writes threads with this manner?

Anybody have any idea who I'm talking about? I was reading one of his post but lost it and didn't bookmark it?

Thanks and soz again Comeback. . .

 

[The Comeback Kid]

Soz? lol. Any help with the topic at hand would be appreciated. We had a real good time during the first (casual) date and I'm looking forward to next week, but it's a while away. I want to keep the positive vibes so they don't die out come date time. Keep in mind I'm home from Thursday afternoon-Monday evening, so that's why it'll come down to texts and a phone call perhaps.

 

[scrouds]

Think about how many times you want to talk to her this week..... and divide by 5. Don't you have better things to do then coddling a chick into the friendzone?

 

[Asasione]

Pachuco you must be talking about Victory Unlimited. Cbk why is it so important that things work out with this girl? You're overthinking this, get a life!

 

[The Comeback Kid]

Obviously a bunch of "players" have replied so far. For those of you who actually envision relationships...

...if I say NOTHING to her for the entire week, any sort of excitement fizzles. If I do too much, obviously I'm walking into LJBF zone. So maybe just a text or a call over the weekend should work?

This chick is really cool, we have a lot in common, and we instantly hit it off last week. She's interested in the second date, and so am I.

 

[Energizer]

You know what the answer is mate.

She's interested in you and you are interested in her.

You have had to reschedule, so what? Just meet next wednesday and for pete's sake, stop over-analysing the situation and just enjoy the time you spend with her. You'll know what to do when your gut instinct kicks into gear, follow it and let things unfold, don't force the issue and remember to have fun, that's the most important thing.

 

[Dannyrt34]

Here's what I have to say about keeping in touch with her:

ONLY call her when you have stuff to talk about, it's that simple. I don't believe in some set rule that says you can only call her on set days and a set amount of times.

If you have stuff to talk about with her, ring her up!

That's one mistake some guys make, they get up the courage to call the girl. She picks up, and then the guy realizes he has nothing to talk about. Then they have an awkward conversation for 5 minutes and she says she has to go. Just don't do that.

 

[Asasione]

Get a life, do something anything other than thinking of this girl, cold approach, hang out with friends and you'll have plenty to talk about. Do stuff that makes you happy and it will make you feel and put you in a talkative mood. You'll be fun, upbeat, challenging and have an exciting conversation naturally without this mental wankery you seem to be engaging in. Its only a second date, what about 6 months down the road? You had a great date thanks to your own effort and creativity. What makes you think you can't figure it out on your own?