"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to keep the romance in 30s?

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Just had a question maybe some older guys can answer.

Wondering how you keep the romance in the relationship when you are older? Once the girl is past a certain age I always think I can be a little more combative, argumentative, and meaner in the relationship. Not that I want to be but my thinking is her sexual market value is getting lower by the hour while mine is likely increasing. How do you get away from this thinking? It's hurt me a bit over the past few months.

It's not like when you are teenager or early 20s you will drive across the state or do anything for her because your value is low and hers is high. Now I have so much trouble doing anything romantic, as I think she should be so lucky for me to invest anything in her if she is above a certain age.

Any insight appreciated.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm 40 and have been with my gf for 2 years. She is 41. Like you I don't like the romantic crap. I'm typically about 15% nice guy and 85% a##hole as she calls it. You don't want to be nice guy all the time but you do have to once in a while. If you are wondering if women mature as they get older, I honestly can't tell you for sure if they do. As they get older their heads get bigger and they get more stubborn, that I can tell ya.
 
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logicallefty said:
I'm 40 and have been with my gf for 2 years. She is 41. Like you I don't like the romantic crap. I'm typically about 15% nice guy and 85% a##hole as she calls it. You don't want to be nice guy all the time but you do have to once in a while. If you are wondering if women mature as they get older, I honestly can't tell you for sure if they do. As they get older their heads get bigger and they get more stubborn, that I can tell ya.
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Just curious.... hows the love life?
 
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Henuff said:
Just curious.... hows the love life?
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Just fine. Thank you for asking.
 
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