"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to keep the excitement once teh relationship starts?

gimmeyofonenumba

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I've been getting very serious with this chick I've been seeing. She was dropping heavy hints about getting into a relationship(been dating a few mos. now). My question is, that once that happens..I'm concerned she'll get bored, especially because she likes to flirt, and she's constantly pursued by other guys. Just curious how you guys keep the interest and excitement level up?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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pipe007

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of course she is going to get bored with you easily in the next few months

1) you have no frame, you don't see yourself as the prize.
2) you are insecure, and now believe she will get bored and flirt.
3) she flirts? she has a bunch of guys pursuing her? lol i feel bad for you.
4) you have not screened this girl as a good partner for you, you are dating a girl that likes to flirt with guys, and if you know it, she probably does it in front of you which probably means
5) she has no respect, admiration or value for you, you probably are a low status male who lets women walk all over him.

yeah, this girl is most likely to dump you or cheat on u in the comming months.

but enjoy while it lasts, and LEARN!
 

pipe007

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of course she is going to get bored with you easily in the next few months

1) you have no frame, you don't see yourself as the prize.
2) you are insecure, and now believe she will get bored and flirt.
3) she flirts? she has a bunch of guys pursuing her? lol i feel bad for you.
4) you have not screened this girl as a good partner for you, you are dating a girl that likes to flirt with guys, and if you know it, she probably does it in front of you which probably means
5) she has no respect, admiration or value for you, you probably are a low status male who lets women walk all over him.

yeah, this girl is most likely to dump you or cheat on u in the comming months.

but enjoy while it lasts, and LEARN!
 

EvilAgenda

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Maybe a better question is how do you keep the spark going in a LTR? You see it every day - relationships fall apart, people fall out of love, and marriages end.

Consider you've scaled your partner, and she is what you want. You have chemistry every day, she is in love with you. Out of all the girls you've been with, she is everything you searched for. You are convinced your search is over. The relationship naturally develops in a LTR.

It's interesting to hear what others do to keep the spark going, to keep that challenge, to keep that intimacy and the attraction.
 

CJ 101

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Always see yourself as the prize in the relationship you're in, she's entered into your world it'snot the other way around and you need to keep that frame, now concerning her flirting with other guys, that's a red light but it's not something that cannot be dealt with. You need to focus on other chicks even though you're still with her that way when she sees that you're a guy who's in demand then she'll start taking you seriously, if she doesn't change her flirtatious ways then just stop hanging out with her and don't call her....now i'm not saying that you should break up with her, but if she's flirting with other guys then you should divert your attention somewhere else i guarantee you that she'll get the picture. If she doesn't change then get rid of her she's just one out of 3.8 billion females on this planet.Get her to take you seriously or leave her for another chick.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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'How to' s

To become a don juan, you have to kill that self doubt! Be yourself, be a man.
 

comic_relief

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Just keep your hobbies, do stuff without her (such as bike tours), and generally be awesome.

I build houses for habitat for humanity and do a lot of volunteer work without the girlfriend.

Gives us something to talk about and she does her own stuff to. Keep your own life

- comic_relief
 
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