"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how to keep interest level, and challenge when dating

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title says it all, how do you keep being a challenge when your dating, i know like making time for your friends etc... but can you say stuff like "i wish you were here" and that stuff without being afc, or does all that sweet talking stuff pretty much standard AFC
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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just live your life to how you want to live it and if you decide that she should come along on one of your adventures than bring her along.

I am in a LDLTR so I rarely contact my girlfriend before 9PM. I will go out to a bar to play pool and if a girl gives me her number (happened last night). I will make sure to tell her to show that I am still a hot commodity and that I have options. Just make sure not to cheat on her.

That is some of the things that I do. My girlfriend knows that I used to be a player for a long time before I met her. She knows that I was drop dead sexy beforehand that I would be hard to keep around. She loves it.

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..also (I am just stumbling onto this myself recently) you have to become an interesting person, and have interests that you are passionate about
 

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When you're w/ her, have a kickas* time. Then disappear! Not disappear of the face of the planet, but just pursue your passions...keep your passions #1 and keep her out of your mind until the next time you two go out.
 

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thanks guys, good point, and if i like this girl and i know she likes me, what are some good ways to keep from being exclusive, while still gettin some pvssy, cause this girl is all about dating before doing it
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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