"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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how to jump back on track??

manish

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hello,

lately i have been disturbued by series of events..

i was working on my website[startup]..but now suddenly i dont feel like working on it..i have put so many efforts on it..its sad

i dont know what i,m supposed to do now, i have tried watching movies..but it does not help, tried waching porn..it does not help, tried booze..it fails too...tried to go out for shoping..but i,m not able to get back on my routine..my work..something in me has been lost..

i wanted to finish programing of my site by 24th..but i know..its not possible..

what you guys do to jump back on track??

any tricks ..tips??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What helps me jump back on track is the question:
Why did I start?
 

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I was first going to ask why you stopped, but honestly, it does not matter.

The problem right now is you lost your MOMENTUM. You were working hard on this project. Right at this moment, you probably are not. So getting started again SEEMS difficult because of inertia.

The good news is that you can get your momentum back, but it won't happen instantly. You need to take some "baby steps" to get moving again.

Think about what you have to do (or write it down if it helps) and pick the EASIEST and hopefully the MOST ENJOYABLE (or least painful lol) part of the project. I'm sure there is at least one small, easy portion of the project that you can do in 5 to 30 minutes. Even if it's just the BEGINNING of a MUCH larger task, that is ok.

Pick that one item and do it for fun. After you complete that, your confidence will be higher. Then you can do something else. Little by little, your momentum will come back.

Gaining momentum is critical for all areas of life, whether it's work, fitness, pickup, etc.

For example, in university/college, let's say that the professor hands out a difficult exam. Give it a quick look and start with the easiest question first. With the slight confidence boost it gives you, you can then move on to longer, more difficult questions.

Or when a guy walks into a bar/club and he has really bad approach anxiety, he should start SOMEWHERE. Approach a less attractive girl, or talk to dudes or talk to the bartender. Once he gets more into a social state and gets that momentum, then he can move on to more difficult approaches.
 

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Quit looking at porn, and progressively exercise every day. That's guaranteed to get you back on track.
 

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Mike32ct said:
I was first going to ask why you stopped, but honestly, it does not matter.

The problem right now is you lost your MOMENTUM. You were working hard on this project. Right at this moment, you probably are not. So getting started again SEEMS difficult because of inertia.

The good news is that you can get your momentum back, but it won't happen instantly. You need to take some "baby steps" to get moving again.

Think about what you have to do (or write it down if it helps) and pick the EASIEST and hopefully the MOST ENJOYABLE (or least painful lol) part of the project. I'm sure there is at least one small, easy portion of the project that you can do in 5 to 30 minutes. Even if it's just the BEGINNING of a MUCH larger task, that is ok.

Pick that one item and do it for fun. After you complete that, your confidence will be higher. Then you can do something else. Little by little, your momentum will come back.

Gaining momentum is critical for all areas of life, whether it's work, fitness, pickup, etc.

For example, in university/college, let's say that the professor hands out a difficult exam. Give it a quick look and start with the easiest question first. With the slight confidence boost it gives you, you can then move on to longer, more difficult questions.

Or when a guy walks into a bar/club and he has really bad approach anxiety, he should start SOMEWHERE. Approach a less attractive girl, or talk to dudes or talk to the bartender. Once he gets more into a social state and gets that momentum, then he can move on to more difficult approaches.
wow ..nice trick..that me going..so now i,m working on my project again..

:)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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