How To Juggle Plates

[foolyoufool]

How you motivate yourself to find new plates, when the plates you are spinning are keeping you busy?

Earlier this year I was spinning 2 plates (I'm a big deal I know) and I found that it was hard for me to motivate myself to go out and actively game other girls. I would meet up with these girls about once a week each (Thursday, Saturday) so that would leave one day a week for me to go out, party with my bros, and meet some new chicks.

I found that I was really satisfied with all the sex I was having with them, and when I would go out, I wasn't trying overly hard to get numbers or set up dates. Sure I would still hook up with other chicks, but my drive was definitely much lower than when I was completely single. I also do the no fap challenge, I never beat my meat anymore (and I haven't had to!).

Anyone else start to get complacent when they have a lot of plates going? Maybe I have low sex drive or something, I feel like lots of you are spinning way more than 2 plates and still finding time to go out and get new ones going. So how do you do it?

 

[BeDJ]

Understand that a chick will drop you at any given moment for any given reason. You have 2 plates now, but tomorrow you may have none.

Think of it as building a sports team. Not everyone buy into your system, they either get cut, ask to be traded or simply get arrested. You can not predict which ones are going to stick around. Very few players will stick with their team if given offered ore money elsewhere.

You are in the PERFECT position to secure new plates if you have a couple going for you. You really don't care if a woman rejects you because you have 2 on the roster. Imagine if you had NONE and trying to generate options.

You have to take dating from the offensive - Invading and securing new resources, rather than defensive - protecting your own territory at all cost. Divide and conquer. Never be comfortable with that you currently have. That's for losers.

 

[Uncharted]

You are in the PERFECT position to secure new plates if you have a couple going for you. You really don't care if a woman rejects you because you have 2 on the roster. Imagine if you had NONE and trying to generate options.

He's right. This is the key part about spinning plates. If you have no chicks, then you might feel a little desperate and if a girl flakes or rejects you, it might hurt your ego more. Now that you're in a good place and you don't "need" them, it's the best time to get more prospects. You don't have to continually date more than 2-3 girls at a time. You can even see girls once a month or every few weeks. You will actually be busy so you don't need to fake it. Then if you like one of the new girls, just drop (or backburner) one of the others, and refocus your energy on her.

It gets easier the more you do it, and when you realize that women actually do this all the time.

 

[foolyoufool]

You are in the PERFECT position to secure new plates if you have a couple going for you. You really don't care if a woman rejects you because you have 2 on the roster. Imagine if you had NONE and trying to generate options.

The irony is I just lost both of my plates so thats exactly where I'm at. Just trying to get some opinions for next time when I got a few plates going.


Also, got any advice for when you see a plate at a party when you are trying to game? That was happening to me a lot this past year... really screwed me up because I would just end up going home with her at the end of the night.

 

[handle]

Never be comfortable with that you currently have. That's for losers.

Never being able to enjoy the moment is for losers. If you're having a good time with 2 plates then have a good time with 2 plates. Once I get to ~3 I don't see the point in putting energy into finding more -- if they show up that's fine but otherwise I have a business to take care of, friends to chill with, 3 quality women to sleep with...

If you don't feel like actively seeking out more women, don't. If you decide you are interested in more, go for it. This is supposed to be FUN. When I'm banging three great girls I want to be like "I'm banging three great girls," I don't want to be like "oh man I feel good but is it enough? I need to go mack on as many girls as possible." fuk that man, enjoy the moment.

If you're confident in your abilities this whole 'it will make you seem less desperate' thing is meaningless. I guess if you buy into that stuff then maybe you will feel the need to grab more plates.

 

[foolyoufool]

Never being able to enjoy the moment is for losers. If you're having a good time with 2 plates then have a good time with 2 plates. Once I get to ~3 I don't see the point in putting energy into finding more -- if they show up that's fine but otherwise I have a business to take care of, friends to chill with, 3 quality women to sleep with...

If you don't feel like actively seeking out more women, don't. If you decide you are interested in more, go for it. This is supposed to be FUN. When I'm banging three great girls I want to be like "I'm banging three great girls," I don't want to be like "oh man I feel good but is it enough? I need to go mack on as many girls as possible." fuk that man, enjoy the moment.

If you're confident in your abilities this whole 'it will make you seem less desperate' thing is meaningless. I guess if you buy into that stuff then maybe you will feel the need to grab more plates.

Good points. I definitely enjoyed myself this past year... But at the same time I was looking to spin more plates.

It's a good reminder that the purpose of all this stuff is for us to be HAPPY. And if we have that then we should just focus on maintaining it. More plates = more security though, and any one plate dropping out would be less of a deal.