How to initiate a second date?

[CyranodeLesnar]

Hey guys,

New the forum and love the stuff. Some of it I have found truly life changing material. After about 3 or 4 times of having girls initially interested in me, going on a date, then becoming infatuated, and finally appearing really needy and being rejected, I think I am changing my ways.

So recently I asked a girl out on a date from one of my college classes. The date went okay and we had a decent conversation. I initiated some Kino (which was a little awkward) but I think overall it was fun, we hugged at the end and she said she was see me in class next week. After the date, last Thursday, I texted her telling her I had a blast. She replied like an hour later thanking me for inviting her, that she had a great time and wished me a nice long weekend.

My question is if it is worth it to try for a second date? If so, should I just text her and ask her straight up? From the date I know she likes desert so I was thinking of saying I see desert and want to get some desert with her (to lame?) Any suggestions?

 

[perseverance]

My question is if it is worth it to try for a second date? If so, should I just text her and ask her straight up? From the date I know she likes desert so I was thinking of saying I see desert and want to get some desert with her (to lame?) Any suggestions?

Firstly, I'd like to welcome you to the community. Secondly, I'd like to praise on you starting your self improvement programme and thirdly, I do think you should initiate a second date. You had fun, she had fun and you both seem intersted in each other, so what do you have to lose? There are no right or wrong ways to ask somebody out on a date, if you want to text then go ahead and text her, if you want to ask her in person ask her in person, it doesn't matter.

What I like doing is arranging the second date as the first one draws to a close. I like to set my stall out early and I like to be forward and honest about my intentions, so everybody knows where they stand. There seems to be a rule of waiting three or four days which I don't agree with. A lot can change in three or four days, so it is important to keep things ticking along nicely. I'm not blowing up her phone with text messages, voice mails and phone calls, but strike while the iron is hot. If she is genuinely interested in you then it won't matter if you text her, ask her in person or whatever.

I hope I have been of some help to you.