im 22 yrs old and m around 58 kgs. i am 5' 10" long. i dont look like a rake but im damn skinny or thin in a better way. well, to be honest, i do a job, so going to a gym 3-4 times a week would be too much for me because i have life absolutely full at the moment. i just do pushups and light stretches at the moment but that too irregularly. could u guys give me a plan to increase my weight a bit? just put urself in my shoes a bit and think if u work like 9-hrs a day from a shift of 12.30 pm to 9.30 pm, how would u go about it?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How to Increase Weight for Busy Guy?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
12:30 to 9:30?
I don't call that "busy" in the sense that we do in
the overworked U.S. :cuss:
Kerpal's advice is very good, listen to him. You have so much time in the morning, you have no excuse. 5'10" and 130 lbs?????? Dude, all you have to do is breathe heavily and you'll gain weight!
I lost my driver's license for about a year and I took public transportation back and forth to work and still worked out all that time. my work out days basically went from about 6am - 7:30pm, taking work into account, and my commute. And I'm an old fart...it's not really that difficult if you can devote and commit.
I don't call that "busy" in the sense that we do in
the overworked U.S. :cuss:
Kerpal's advice is very good, listen to him. You have so much time in the morning, you have no excuse. 5'10" and 130 lbs?????? Dude, all you have to do is breathe heavily and you'll gain weight!
I lost my driver's license for about a year and I took public transportation back and forth to work and still worked out all that time. my work out days basically went from about 6am - 7:30pm, taking work into account, and my commute. And I'm an old fart...it's not really that difficult if you can devote and commit.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Do you HAVE too? You dont HAVE too, but it will be really hard if you dont have them. Unless you want to go old school, lift Ox, 55 gallon drums, sandbags, water cans on ropes, tires, and all of that, you're out of luck.schttrj said:
This is, if you cant afford to buy stuff for the home. You can get DBs, a bench for like 99 that you can use for flat bench, and spend a little more you can get a whole incline/decline combo.
The problem, is without a gym, you can only get so far. I told a kid at work this. He was like... i'm increasing my reps. BUT HE WAS NOT increasing his WEIGHT. He had no more weight, and adding another few reps is not the same.
You have to decide what your goals are as well. Some goals can be met with no gym at all.
If you are wanting to get serious, this is a LIFESTYLE, and you will FAIL if you dont realize this from the get go.
You cant go... I want to look like the guy on Mens Fitness and then not eat, and not go to the gym, etc etc.
You can get a start with a few dumbells, some elastic bands, and some heavy medicine balls and such.
It doesn't really matter how much size and weight you want to add...training for muscle is training for muscle.
You need to get to a gym and start doing the compound exercises or buy a bench, barbells, plenty of weight, maybe some dumbbells and a squat rack would be nice..but you're best off just going to a gym mate.
If you're not gonna do that and eat enough food..then you're not gonna gain any muscle
You need to get to a gym and start doing the compound exercises or buy a bench, barbells, plenty of weight, maybe some dumbbells and a squat rack would be nice..but you're best off just going to a gym mate.
If you're not gonna do that and eat enough food..then you're not gonna gain any muscle
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
You could do a two day and make great progress. Go before work, one hour or less would be all that is needed per session.
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tj
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Kerpal said:
Very solid advice. I am going to check it out.
I work on my feet most of the day.
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Option 1-
A diet of bread, twinkies, soda, fastfood, gallons of chocolate milk, candy bars, oreos, cereal bars, red bulls, and loads of pasta. Plus don't do any cardio, avoid protein, also eat right before bed until you are so bloated you can't move.
Option 2-
A diet high in protein, mod carbs, and high fats. With tons of delicious meat products and tasty whey shakes. Lift weights and gain some strength and have a better physique. Have a sense of order in your life, have more energy, have a freakin hobby, gain confidence, and make friends at the gym. benefits are endless. Not to mention compliments from women and even meeting a hawt girl at the gym.
btw- with your body, it would take you 5 years of dedication to look as good as rambo
*why don't you eat a lot and just get fat...sounds like that would be more fitting for you.
A diet of bread, twinkies, soda, fastfood, gallons of chocolate milk, candy bars, oreos, cereal bars, red bulls, and loads of pasta. Plus don't do any cardio, avoid protein, also eat right before bed until you are so bloated you can't move.
Option 2-
A diet high in protein, mod carbs, and high fats. With tons of delicious meat products and tasty whey shakes. Lift weights and gain some strength and have a better physique. Have a sense of order in your life, have more energy, have a freakin hobby, gain confidence, and make friends at the gym. benefits are endless. Not to mention compliments from women and even meeting a hawt girl at the gym.
btw- with your body, it would take you 5 years of dedication to look as good as rambo
*why don't you eat a lot and just get fat...sounds like that would be more fitting for you.
future_strongguy
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rosstraining.com supposedly has a nice book on bodyweight exercises called "Never Gymless"
i-tallianstallion, i like ur last advice, but ya, i think i need to join a gym, oh so much work. damn, im a lazy guy and just wondered fi i could get an idea about some free hand exercise that would just help me gain weight?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
future_strongguy
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You can get strong without touching the barbell/dumbbell. If you eat a lot you should gain weight too. Try the book.
hand exercise for weight gain:schttrj said:
travel to nearest fast-food outlet. order at least 3 of largest available sandwich (at least 500 calories). use hand to place sandwich in mouth, take bite. repeat for each sandwich until all three are consumed. repeat 3x per day for 10-12 weeks. look in mirror and appreciate all the weight you've gained.
anyawys and thumbs up to future_strongguyschttrj said:
Hah ya know, I'm starting the think the problem isn't that you're "busy", but that you're just lazy. Mate, no, there is no easy way to do this. Do you think we would all be doing heavy squats in gyms if there was an easy way to do this???schttrj said:
9 hr shifts are the NORM. Look at most guys down your local gym. They all have 9-5 jobs or equivalent, and yet they still have muscle. Get your ass to the gym, start training hard and take lots of food to work with you. That's the way to do this.
If you're lazy, it'll never work. (because you'll probably never do it)
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.