"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to implement in school

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DreamTheaterFan

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I'm in HS, and I'm not really super popular, don't really have a niche or anything. I'm known as being funny as hell, a self depricating guy, etc. I'm confident and everything, but, its hard for me to talk to girls and everything, because if I screw anything up, I'm going to have to see them everyday for the next few years. How did you guys in HS get over this whole thing? I mean, it would be easier if they just approached me...but thats probably not gonna happen. Man, HS is just tough man, with all the social cliques and everything...:p
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Okay ~ take a deep breathe...


Step 1.

Realization.

"I am full of sh-t ~ I am not confident. I am trying to bull sh-t all the people on this forum and myself because if I was confident, I wouldnt be posting this post"

Step 2.

Recovery

"I will read the bible and apply it to my life, I will improve everything about my life. I am a great guy, but through the course of my life I will be constantly transforming myself into the most amazing man I know. I will correct every unhealthy behavioral, physical, emotional and social problem that I have and become a social icon."


Step 3.

Actualization

"I am getting the results that I want. I have met the goals that I have set, and I am a happy, healthy, mature man, that strives every day to apply these basic principles to my life and mature, learn and grow in every way possible."


Come on man dont bull sh!t us.

Even more importantly, dont bulls!t YOURSELF!!

What are you a freshman, sophmore?

You've got time, but you gotta think long term.

You may have short term results, but don't get complacent.


The bible, boot camp, and tons of other free literature is available here for free, read it. Live it. Its huge.

Please post often. We are here to help each other. Believe it or not, but we've all been through most of the same stuff! So don't hesitate to post your problems. We will be more than willing to offer advice and stories to help you by.


But.. you gotta want to change in order to transform yourself.

Please read the bible!


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What's Dream Theater? I never heard of it. But anyway, if you break something off with a girl in your school, don't make it a bad break off. And don't worry about screwing it up, who cares. And you could always go for girls from other schools.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dream Theater is my favourite band. Listen to liquid tension experiment if the singing annoys u;)

High school IS tough. And screwing up in school is even TOUGHER. Thats why I recommend you to meet girls outside of school. There'll be less risk and more choice (of girls). Keep on meeting girls outside of school until u are confident enuff to handle the girls IN school.

-Luck
 
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If you screw up with a girl, just be an ******* to her from then on! There's no sense in fearing having to see her again.

Tell her she's a slut when she walks past you or just look at her all crazy when she sees you.
 
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Oh my god high schoolers can be such fvcking dipsh!its...


Dimebag...

You cant be serious..

Yeah, let's blame your Fvcking shortcomings and insecurities on HER, lets blame the fact that you cant be a fraction of a MAN that some little punk can be on HER. Let's call HER a slut because you messed up your "game" on her and she DESPISES YOU.


Oh my god you are so far up your own clueless adolescent ass that you have no idea what it is to be a DJ.

Real men respect women.

Real men respect themselves.

Where do you fit in?

Hrmm.......

Figure that out on your own.....
 
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Whoa, I didn't know this forum had DT fans! DT's my favorite band .. I can't wait for Petrucci to release his solo album (should be soon)..

Anyway back on topic. You have to kind of adapt a "I-don't-give-a-****" attitude. Not so much that you are an obnoxious ***-hole, more of a carefree kind of aloof attitude. Honestly, who cares if that chick blows you off when you try to make a convo with her? It's her loss.

If you haven't already, you should give bootcamp a try. It helps you get the right attitude going.
 
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Andromax,

I liked your first reply. It's good to see people are serious about helping newer people on the board.

However watch it with your reply to dimebag. Even though you where on the right track advice-wise you didnt have to be so rude about it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You're right,

I apologize.
 
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Its simple really. If she does blow you off, have no interest in her at all, but dont completely ignore her. She should be like any other girl. As long as you dont try to push yourself on her, you wont die. anyway, it wont matter because she doesnt matter anymore. youve moved on to other (prettier) girls.
 
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I wouldn't be so worried. Word spreads quickly, yes, but it is also forgotten just as quickly.
 
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Hell yeah, Dream Theater fans. You guys really know your ****. Do any of you guys frequent DT message boards, like the one on www.mikeportnoy.com?

Thanks for all the advice guys, its really helpful.
 
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Originally posted by DreamTheaterFan
Hell yeah, Dream Theater fans. You guys really know your ****. Do any of you guys frequent DT message boards, like the one on www.mikeportnoy.com?

Thanks for all the advice guys, its really helpful.
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Yeah, I goto JP's forum pretty frequently. There's some really talented musicians on there.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Sir Lancelot
Yeah, I goto JP's forum pretty frequently. There's some really talented musicians on there.
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Definately man. Do you play guitar? My sn on DT forums is HomerSimpson by the way...
 
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