How to help my cousins out?

[Crissco]

Long story short ive lived with my cousins for 8 years after there mother passed away(R.I.P.) They were 17 and 19 when they moved in. I have resentment towards them because when I was younger my father cheated on my mother and moved out. And since I saw my father as protector I was living with 2 kids who where about a foot taller then me) Which made me feel inferior and since they where depressed it brought it took a toll on me.

F - Got married and just had a kid. Gorgeous tough little girl. Hes 32 and his wife's 35. I had this girl in my life I really like and since other girls can sense that, right in front of F she looked at me like she wanted to **** me right there. I feel really bad because all he ever tried to do was help me. He turned into a real AFC since he got married, and now hes stuck.

M - Is F's younger brother. Hes in an endless relationship where the girlfriend controls the relationship. I know there's not much that I can do to help besides money wise(which I don't have), but like most other people, they would like to do it on there own.

I want to help them and not sure what to do

Crissco

 

[Desert Fox]

k here's what you do.

are you done with college?
do you have a great job you want?
fun hobbies you like doing even alone? (beating ur meat doesn't count)
great woman you enjoy having around?

no?

worry about your own life first man. you can't help others without helping yourself first.

 

[Crissco]

k here's what you do.

are you done with college?
do you have a great job you want?
fun hobbies you like doing even alone? (beating ur meat doesn't count)
great woman you enjoy having around?

no?

worry about your own life first man. you can't help others without helping yourself first.

I know bro believe me. Its just hard seeing them like this, there like brothers to me.

 

[sodbuster]

you can mention this site,but they have to want help. If people don't want help,you are wasting your time and energy trying to fix something they don't think is broken

 

[hansol]

2 rules:

(1) You can't help people who don't want to be helped.

(2) Sort yourself out before you go attempting to sort other people out.

Failing at Rule 1 tends to make the friend/brother/whomever resentful, failing at Rule 2 tends to make both parties resentful.

 

[Crissco]

2 rules:

(1) You can't help people who don't want to be helped.

(2) Sort yourself out before you go attempting to sort other people out.

Failing at Rule 1 tends to make the friend/brother/whomever resentful, failing at Rule 2 tends to make both parties resentful.

Funny part is, there there the ones who tried to help me out all these years and I was the one who didn't want to be helped. There's just way to much competition when it comes to women specifically in my family. Number 2 is definitely my best bet. Which is what ive been doing these past couple of weeks.

Ones married and the other ones got a girl bro. I just feel there pain.

 

[Desert Fox]

feeling someone else's pain is a choice dude. simply choose not to give a damn. if they want help they will come ask.