"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to help my bro become more popular

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Long story short I want to help my brother become more popular in HS, mainly with the girls and get him to stop playing so many video games. He had 2 gfs so far, both broke up with him. I treid to show him the ropes direct him to this site, I even bought him the game to get him "into it". But he wont budge. You guys have any ideas for me?
Maybe chill with some of the younger girls older sisters to get my last name out there, and that will get our last name out and around his school...?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Little Panda said:
I don't understand what the point is in forcing this on him. You will only push him farther away by doing so.

Instead, let him figure things out for himself. Sometimes we have to make a mistake or two until it clicks in our brains.
That was my other guess. I just want him to do we'll early in life so he doesn't have to make the same mistakes I did.
 

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Maybe instead of throwing the whole thing at him, you can just help him learn the necessary parts.

He really doesn't need to read The Game or any book on PU for that matter. Just help him become more popular, an alpha male, and give him some pointers... Maybe take him to parties/places with you, where there are girls?
 

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I've seen a thread like this before, I think it was concluded that the most important thing was to let him live his own life, and not force it on him.
What I think you could do is to set an example for him. Be your best. Be an alpha-male, be congruent with your core. He will learn, sub-conciously and/or conciously.
Of course you can give him tips at times and help him with any girl-problems. Something important to remember is that we value the opinions of those that we percive as high value.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NorwegianDJ said:
I've seen a thread like this before, I think it was concluded that the most important thing was to let him live his own life, and not force it on him.
What I think you could do is to set an example for him. Be your best. Be an alpha-male, be congruent with your core. He will learn, sub-conciously and/or conciously.
Of course you can give him tips at times and help him with any girl-problems. Something important to remember is that we value the opinions of those that we percive as high value.
Thats exactly what ive been trying to do. Like I said he had 2 gfs, right after I ended up bring a lot of girls over in a years time. And I gotta give you props bro, for a 15 year old, your one smart ass kid
 

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Thanks bro. How is NY? I'm thinking of checking it out in a few years time. Is it like it is hyped up to be? What's good and whats bad? From your experience of course.
 

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NorwegianDJ said:
Thanks bro. How is NY? I'm thinking of checking it out in a few years time. Is it like it is hyped up to be? What's good and whats bad? From your experience of course.
New Yorks not bad. All depends on where you go. Manhattan is cool, but like everything else you get used to it and it becomes second nature. I live in Long Island, about 45 min from the city. Like i said depending on where you and obv what you make out of it, its cool. Upstate new yorks alot different, a lot of open space, some farm land (not including the citys upstate) You should give it a shot, I think youde like it. How Africa?
 

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New Yorks not bad. All depends on where you go. Manhattan is cool, but like everything else you get used to it and it becomes second nature. I live in Long Island, about 45 min from the city. Like i said depending on where you and obv what you make out of it, its cool. Upstate new yorks alot different, a lot of open space, some farm land (not including the citys upstate) You should give it a shot, I think youde like it. How Africa?
Cool. I'll be checking out Harvard in the vacation, so I might be going to NY some time.
South Africa is not how you picture Africa. You might imagine tons of poor people, shacks, wastelands, jungle and ****. In Cape Town theres 4 million people, 100x more than in my old town. About 1 million (?) live in townships, but you barely see it. It's a great place really. I imagine it's almost like an american city. Can't describe much more, unless you ask more specific.
 

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Cool. I'll be checking out Harvard in the vacation, so I might be going to NY some time.
South Africa is not how you picture Africa. You might imagine tons of poor people, shacks, wastelands, jungle and ****. In Cape Town theres 4 million people, 100x more than in my old town. About 1 million (?) live in townships, but you barely see it. It's a great place really. I imagine it's almost like an american city. Can't describe much more, unless you ask more specific.
Harvard? Thats awesome bro! One of the best schools in the country. Only seen pictures of Africa, wouldnt mind going there for a sick ass vacation spot.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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