How to have longer conversations over the phone?

[Happy_Camper]

Hi everyone, I have a cell phone (well most of us do lol), but the thing is is that i sometimes get depressed over looking at my phone book. it only contains a few ppl and i dont have much ppl to call. In addition no one ever calls me either. I guess maybe im not a phone person. Cause when i call a close friend, its usually "Yo, 8 o clock at bloor station" and then hes like ok and then we hang up. I miss those long conversations i had over the phone for hours with ppl. I was wondering if you guys have any tips.

Is it because i might monopolize the conversations because i get nervous and then it doesnt give a chance for the other person to speak? My job is really easy at work because i do sales, and when no one comes in you can do anything you want. My coworkers always chatting on the phone because they have lots to talk about or just have a certain way of having a good time over the phone whether its same or opposite sex.

I was wondering if there are any tips to talk over the phone? I heard for example you should smile because the other person on the other line can feel you being happy when you smile even though they cant see it etc, thanks.

 

[smooth guy]

give people a reason to call you.

No calls doesn't necessarily = no friends. I just use my cellphone to arrange going out (where to meet at what time) and to keep in contact with my Dad. Also the gf won't lay off with the text messages, but that's pretty much it.

What exactly do you want from a cellphone, conversations that go on for hours? That's for the women man. I should know, I have a sister.

 

[billy_bronx]

if you want to talk to a girl on the phone for hours, you will come of as needy and lose her ....or is that whats already happened?..

 

[Alphamale1821]

first off why in the hell are you trying to find a way to maximize time on the phone. Short talks on the phone are the best phone calls. Chicks are the ones who love to talk on the phone because maybe they have nothing better to do. WOrk on your confidence then focus on the phone calls

 

[Happy_Camper]

ok but how about the part that people dont ever call me then? I think there is something wrong. Should i be the one initiating then? Some ppl i mean call to chit chat or just ask whats up and i dont seem to do that but i find it appealing. I just like that human contact when someone just calls to see what you're up 2. However i feel some of my friends dont like to do that over the phone lol.

 

[smooth guy]

ok but how about the part that people dont ever call me then? I think there is something wrong. Should i be the one initiating then? Some ppl i mean call to chit chat or just ask whats up and i dont seem to do that but i find it appealing. I just like that human contact when someone just calls to see what you're up 2. However i feel some of my friends dont like to do that over the phone lol.

Like I said, do they have a reason to call you?

 

[kdnash82]

Like someone mentioned before, cell phones are mostly used for text messaging. Most times during the work hours people can't sit there and TALKk on the cell. They can however get away with texts because it's quick and silent.

I would recommend you going to your carrier and paying for unlimited text messages. Then, when you're at work, fire off a couple of texts to your friends. If sending off jokes, don't expect responses back, but things like "What's going on? Did you hear about the....? How is....?" you will receive a response back. From there, if the person isn't busy, you will probably have an entire conversation through texts.

I've literally spent an entire day of work texting a girl. It's usually because we're both bored and that's usually the first message that gets fired off. "I'm bored... entertain me." From here, we're gone through truth or dare games, to things that we've done in the bedroom to 'keep things alive' to what we're gonna do the upcoming weekend. It's just something that can go on for hours with hardly any effort.

With all that said, I woudn't recommend you doing this with a girl that you're interested in. Will definately make it seem like you have no life, which brings me to my next point. If you find that your phone book is a little empty, get yourself out there and make some new friends. Introduce them to your friends and they will probably do the same. When they do, make friends with their friends and so on until you have so many contacts you don't know what to do.

 

[ducaro]

Chicks - long talks (mostly useless)
Guys - short talks (mostly to the point!)

do not try to be a 'chick'

 

[intel123]

there not calling you because . your prob not going out enough . . go out with the people that would normally call . you (but stop calling you now for watever reason ) they still think about you . but idk you must of pulled yoursellf away from them ... put urself back and be active in all there funcitons . going to bball games going to partys concerts then they will call you up and ask for you to chill with them . take it slowly youll be bak in the game in no time .

 

[MooseGod]

The first thing I thought when I saw the thread title was "Why the hell would you want to talk on the phone for a long time?"

If you haven't heard from the chick in a long time and she's a long distance away then I could see an exception, but otherwise phones are strictly a tool for communication. For us guys, that is.

 

[Happy_Camper]

thanks for the ppl who contributed, i like the texting advice and about me making the initative and go out more often. I think that is partly the problem. keep the tips on coming

 

[sandman6991]

Some girls text ALL the time...those are my favorites!