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How to have BETTER sex

3agle 3yes

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First of all, I apologise for what happened in the last thread.

I tried to explain the fact that some women realise how their brains work and others don't.

I did it COMPLETELY wrong by trying to define women using words like "alpha".

The most important thing a man must understand when it comes to women is that the female brain is wired DIFFERENTLY to a man's.

That's the ONE THING Feminists will NEVER understand.

Because their brains are wired differently they view SEX differently.

Before I post the main content of this thread I just want give 3 warnings:

1) I won't patronise anyone by telling them what to do, instead, this post is about seeing sex in a DIFFERENT way which then leads to having better sex.

2) This post is quite long but I promise you, if you read it's entirety it WILL be worth it,

3) Please read this with an open mind.

Ok, now I'll start:

Sex is widely known by most men as simply when our d!cks enters a woman's pvssy.

I was no different. I grew up like most men in this generation NOT learning what sex was from my parents, but from watching porn and listening to what my friends told me.

While physical penetration is OBVIOUSLY part of sex, sex is SO MUCH more.

A few years ago I began to notice something fascinating was happening between my interactions with the women I f*cked.

The way I interacted with them mimicked the way I f *cked them.

Now, it is common knowledge that women enjoy foreplay MORE than men and in my experience this is true.

The truth is, even though both men and women love sex...men and women love sex in DIFFERENT ways.

The best way to describe it is like this:

Men see sex as 80% physical and 20% psychological.

Women see sex as 20% physical and 80% psychological.

Our brains COMPLIMENT each other.

This applies to both men and women in GENERAL.

This explains WHY men prefer porn and women prefer "erotic" novels.

FRMI Studies show that the same areas of the brain that light up with sexual response in men SEEING (physical) porn is the same area that lights up when women are involved in deep, EMOTIONAL (psychological) conversation.

Link here: http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/808430_4

Not only is this my experience but pretty much everyone I know.

I've realised what gets women wet the most isn't what is happening, but what MIGHT happen LATER.

Women LOVE anticipating that sex might happen and this makes perfect sense.

Unlike us, women need to get wet FIRST, before they can f*ck.

How do you make a woman anticipate that sex might happen? Tease, tease, tease.

Because us men view sex mostly as physical, women tease us PHYSICALLY....but since women view sex mostly as psychological we should
tease women PSYCHOLOGICALLY.

EVERY interaction you have with a woman you're attracted to is sex for a woman.

When you approach her...sex.

When you flirt with her...sex.

etc, etc, all the way to the bedroom or the kitchen or the street corner....wherever.

Tease her when you approach her by invading her personal space psychologically and by asking her PERSONAL questions, tease her by making fun of her habits, tease her by touching her briefly, tease her by looking her in the eye a little longer than usual, tease her by leaning into to smell her rather than kiss her, tease her by kissing her and then stopping abruptly, tease by
Inviting her out but NOT making it a date, tease her by inviting her to your place for "drinks", tease her by inviting her to your bedroom to "show her something", etc, etc....

Also, I think it's essential TEASE her by touching her all over her body APART from the obvious places just before you f*ck her.

I usually do this in two ways.

1.Have a "play fight" where you physically overpower her.

2. Give her a massage.

Basically, make her anticipate being f*cked by subtly dropping little hints that you want to f*ck her.

It's like boiling water, slowly increase your escalation, raising her temperature higher and higher, until she's so hot that you're basically doing her a favour by taking her clothes off...

The best description of sex IMO is the term "sexual intercourse".

The definition of "sexual intercourse" in the dictionary is only a partial definition.

To understand it FULLY, you have to look at the definition of both words SEPARATELY.

Sex·u·al
1. Of, relating to, involving, or characteristic of sex, sexuality, the sexes, or the sex organs and their functions.
2. Implying or symbolizing erotic desires or activity.

In·ter·course
1. Dealings or communications between persons or groups.

"Sex", or "sexual intercourse" in it's COMPLETE form is SEXUAL COMMUNICATION.

It is the FUSION of masculine energy and feminine energy.

To COMMUNICATE with her, you must speak HER language.

For her to COMMUNICATE with you, she must speak YOUR language.

The man's brain and woman's brain COMPLIMENT each other.

This realisation has changed my life.
 
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Wow best post ive seen on here in awhile.. Nice job.

I notice this same thing from time to time when i happen to be in the zone with a girl, its kind of like a winding journey that slowly escalates from when you first interact. Trick is getting yourself to be that comfortable more of the time so you're not all up in your head thinkign about what you should be doing instead of what you are doing. Easier said than done of course.

Another thing that has gotten in my way especially when i was younger was fear of being sexual, like women are these perfect princesses and ny expressing your sexuality to them its somehow inappropriate or even offensive, when in fact they are sitting there waiting to have their panties pulled down and, well you get the picture..

If any of you have done certain drugs (ecstacy or mushrooms particularly) its incredible how easily and naturally that confidence just oozes out of you. You can literally just seduce a girl with your eyes and body language and maybe one phrase.. What i would give to have that be my natural brain state hahaha..
 

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Agreed. Hence when girls mind fvck that is what they are literally doing - fvcking us mentally.
 

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repped, good stuff
 

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Not being too available helps too.
 

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How does this apply to a LTR or marriage ?
 

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Don't kid yourself...a lot of it is physical as well....

Google three the three sex position to make a girl *** and try at least one of them and notice the huge difference in how a girl moan and how quickly they ***....i have field tested the first position which is very simple never several times with multiple girls and the results are great and it seems to raise interest level as well...

The first position is really simple...have her lay on her back...shove a pillor under her lower back above her ass and at first you can bang her regular missionary...the pillow makes your sfat rub her g spot and **** much more effective...but what will really make her *** quickly in a matter of minutes...pull her legs up and put her feet up int he air resting against your shoulders or chest and bang her slowly and deeply at first only pulling halfway out each thrust and keeping it in deep as possible.....what how crazy she will start to act after a few minutes....
 

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woohoo leave it to ss to screw up something as natural as sex.

Want to have better sex? Rail her as hard as ****ing possible. No women has ever complained so far.

Ticatac thats actually a good URl.... holy crap lol
 

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zinc4 said:
Don't kid yourself...a lot of it is physical as well....

Google three the three sex position to make a girl *** and try at least one of them and notice the huge difference in how a girl moan and how quickly they ***....i have field tested the first position which is very simple never several times with multiple girls and the results are great and it seems to raise interest level as well...

The first position is really simple...have her lay on her back...shove a pillor under her lower back above her ass and at first you can bang her regular missionary...the pillow makes your sfat rub her g spot and **** much more effective...but what will really make her *** quickly in a matter of minutes...pull her legs up and put her feet up int he air resting against your shoulders or chest and bang her slowly and deeply at first only pulling halfway out each thrust and keeping it in deep as possible.....what how crazy she will start to act after a few minutes....
Noted, will try. Thanks lol
 

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zinc4 said:
Don't kid yourself...a lot of it is physical as well...
JohnChops said:
Want to have better sex? Rail her as hard as ****ing possible. No women has ever complained so far.
If you understood what I posted, you'd of realised this helps get the woman in bed in the first place.

I also said 20% physical...however, this is real life we're talking about here.

So it will VARY from woman to woman...but I still believe PREDOMINANTLY sex with them is psychological.

I see PHYSICAL sex with women like a SHADOW to psychological sex.

Just like a shadow, the psychological part comes FIRST, then the physical part FOLLOWS.

The way you f*ck them psychologically, you do the same way physically.

This may sound disturbing, but I like to bully women PSYCHOLOGICALLY....and then ACTUALLY f*ck them that way.

It always seems to work.

Often, when I meet a girl I'm very nosy. I'll snatch their phone, read and make fun of their texts, I'll grab their drinks and take a sip, if I found out they're passionate about something...I'll ridicule it in a way that she doesn't know whether I'm joking or not. I ALWAYS assume she's attracted to me and even if she's cold, I assume she's cold because she's nervous and tease her about it.

I'm psychologically f*cking her.

Also, I recommend when are about to f*ck her, you DON'T touch her ass, breasts or pvssy straight away...make them anticipate it coming.

Make the b!tch WAIT.

ESPECIALLY the breasts.

Go SLOW at first, then RAIL her like no tomorrow until she's a shrivelling mess...I thought the railing part was obvious, so I didn't mention it.

I'll give you a warning though, b!tches will be blowing up your phone...some may even stalk you.

I also notice they will be more compliant towards you...I kid you not.
 
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Kudos, great post!

I think you perfectly described seduction. We, as modern men, typically think of seduction as getting her in bed ASAP but it's honestly so much more than that. It's a dance, a back and forth, simmering as you said.

You take your time, let the anticpation build until it reaches a boiling point.

IMO most guys have no patience (I suffer from this BIG TIME). We see blood in the water and we want to attack.

But the best sex I've ever had has been due to anticipation. We both wanted it so badly that when it finally happened it was so intense and amazing.

When you "game" a woman this way she'll simply become obsessed with you. Awesome place to be.
 

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apprenticedj said:
We, as modern men, typically think of seduction as getting her in bed ASAP but it's honestly so much more than that. It's a dance, a back and forth, simmering as you said.

You take your time, let the anticpation build until it reaches a boiling point.

IMO most guys have no patience (I suffer from this BIG TIME). We see blood in the water and we want to attack.
Exactly, I tried to explain this in my last thread but I admit I did it poorly.

Masculine energy embraces self-control and I believe we must let go of our ego too, in seduction and sex.
 

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Personally, I really enjoy the anticipation and tension, so I like to prolong it. It's so intense as to be at one time both uncomfortable and pleasurable.
 
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