"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How to handle wardrobe arguments

johnnymatrix

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Hi DJs. I'm new to the forum and stumbled upon it when looking to the internet, of all places, for relationship advice.
The GF and I have been official for more than 6 months now. It's a long-distance relationship (east coast to west coast) and we only get to see each other every couple of months or so. So to make up for that, we skype, text, and phone calls. So I truly place much value and emphasis on the times we do get to skype. She's a respectable enough girl and I trust her to an extent.
But the other day, she goes out in a totally see-through top. It was white and she was wearing a bright baby blue bra underneath it. It was to an outdoor movie with her sisters and some friends. I thought it was an extremely inappropriate top. She's a pretty girl and gets hit on when she goes out to clubs and even at work. I expressed my dismay at her wardrobe choice and wondered why she would even consider wearing something like that when she never had before. She got upset and said I made her feel like a slut.
Was it unreasonable of me to point out my disapproval? If so, what better way could I have gone about it? Is it ok for your GF to dress that way when your not with her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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mrRuckus

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This is easy. You dump her because you're only 6 months in and it's long distance.
 

Greasy Pig

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Many, many, many women in relationships will flirt outrageously just to get an ego boost. Most of them have no intention of cheating but they crave the attention.
I'd say she was hoping to get hit on to fill a void in her life that's not being filled by you.
Still, you have to explain that you don't want to be with a woman who parades her wares in public.
If she resists, you have to be firm or leave.

By the way, please post your age in your profile as per forum rules. And good luck!!!
 

Atom Smasher

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OP, you have 12 hours to post your age in your profile. After that I have to delete your post. This is the Mature Man forum and you must be 25 or older to post, and you must post your age.

The other mods are much stricter on this than I am so do it as soon as you read this lest one of them pulls the trigger.

Edit: Never mind, I moved the thread to General Discussion.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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She is wearing that for attention. She loves the attention she is getting from guys. This is just something that you should have scoped from the beginning of the relationship. If she wore stuff like that when you guys were dating then you probably shouldn't have taken it farther until she decided to settle down with the clothes. If she changes her clothing style in the middle of a relationship then it is a bad sign. It's a sign that she needs to go through her "hoochie" stage.

Why the hell are you in a long distance relationship anyway? I hope this is temporary because if it's not then I would suggest for you to end it while you can. It only takes weeks for a playa to creep up on her and show her what she is missing. You need to be on the prowl too! Don't you got needs?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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