"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to handle this?

PeterCrouch

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OK guys how would you handle a situation like this? before i start i would like to point out that i dont think i have a chance with this gal and its not a ooo i like her how do i make her like me post!

Basically gal i kinda liked (not so much atm) i twiced asked her for sum money she gave me £2 and £3 on two different occasions for lunch so i owe her a £5!

Anyway a couple of times she has mentioned that i owe her the money, fair enough etc

now normally she doesnt like hanging out me with outside college, and we live too far away to meet up just like that and neither of us drive,

cheekily whens she asked me for the money ive said things like

"well why not come and meet me and you can collect it?"

or "how about i pay ya back by buying lunch"?

but all the time she comes back with "nah dont worry about it"

now like i said im not bothered about getting her to hang out with me (altho that would be a bonus) but im more interested in lines i can say and come back with when she says that?

****y and funny and not too bothered lines?

cheers
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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diablo

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$0.01 to the first person to link to the recent thread with virtually the exact same story. Not saying this one is any less important, but I clearly remember there being one with almost every single detail being the same - odd.
 

Centaurion

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give her the money!

find new chicks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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im more interested in lines i can say and come back with when she says that?
Why.... are..... you..... trying..... to.... impress.... her.....?

I suggest you keep your dignity and move on. Seriously :).

Okay so far this is what you described:

Her: hey you owe me money
You: how bout i take u to lunch instead / how bout we meet up somewhere
Her: nah dont worry about it

Now take note of the NEXT STEP:

You: ok (shrugs, then MOVES ON without worrying about how to come up with some line to counteract the subtle rejection, which is probably not your fault, so dont worry about it)

Note the emphasis.
 

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It's one of the reasons I avoid lending money to / from my female friends. It's just no way in the Abyss you can come up with a killer punchline when the issue is brought up.

If you have to borrow some money from a girl, make sure you pay her back within the same hour.
 

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How about this:

Her: Naw, never mind.

You: Hmmm. It seems like it matters to you since you brought it up. I don't know why you wouldn't want to hang out for lunch and have fun. <pause> I guess you don't like to have fun.
 
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