How to handle this?

[toddC]

Okay, well I'll make this short and sweet.

I started hooking up with this girl when she came to visit me at school. That was around a month ago. She just came back last weekend and we spent the whole weekend together. Now were not exclusive or anything like that. We just speak a lot and get with each other when were together.

Now I kinda want something more however I know the cardinal rule of SS is to not bring exclusivity up until the girl does.

So school is over this week, and she goes home (where she has an ex-boyfriend she may be getting back with -- once again I don't know how to bring this up to her).

My BEST friend is out with her on monday night (they've never met). Now he doesn't know how much I'm into this girl, he just thinks I got with her while she was visiting me and that was it. So he texts me in the middle of the night saying "Bro I just made out with your girl!!." Now at the time I had no idea of what to say. So I responded with "Ohh yea, how was that."

I'm not going to let a girl get in between us. I'm not angry with him, but I AM angry with her. She could get with ANYONE she wants just not my BEST FRIENDS.

So here I am (I didn't speak with her yesterday -- and we speak EVERYDAY). not knowing what to do. She did text me LATE last night and I was giving her 1 word answers and what not.

My question to you guys is do I bring this up directly to her? If so, how should I present it to her. If not, what could I do to get her to bring it up?

Also, same 2 questions about her "Ex" Boyfriend.

Let me know, I'm hardly ever in these situations and need some guidance.

 

[Captain]

You're not exclusive, so what she did is OK. You need to date other women, you'll care less. She sounds easy, so she isn't exclusive relationship material. You don't need to "bring it up" with her, just hook up with her again and see how far you can get. Use protection.

 

[toddC]

Okay, and do I not bring up the whole ex-boyfriend thing either? she broke up with him for the semester (her frined told me that) and i don't know what their deal is for this summer.

I would like to keep this thing going with this girl over the summer because I actually do enjoy spending time with her and shes definately a quality chick.

>> Captain: I can see where your getting that she is easy but contrary to what you may believe she hookups with little to no people (which is why my best friend thing is kinda getting to me).

 

[DJDamage]

You don't bring up anything with her.

This girl is playing the field so any attempt by you to question her motives will be counterproductive.

You are clearly getting oneitis for a girl that isn't worth to be with in the long run.

You should be dating other girls instead of wanting an LTR with this one.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Okay, and do I not bring up the whole ex-boyfriend thing either? she broke up with him for the semester (her frined told me that) and i don't know what their deal is for this summer.

I would like to keep this thing going with this girl over the summer because I actually do enjoy spending time with her and shes definately a quality chick.

>> Captain: I can see where your getting that she is easy but contrary to what you may believe she hookups with little to no people (which is why my best friend thing is kinda getting to me).

As others have said already, don't say anything about any of these little situations (ex-bf, your friend etc). Its not your place to bring it up, if you do it will only show her that your getting emotionally attached to her.

You need to learn to read situations better; this girl is CLEARLY showing you that she is enjoying being single. Yet your already considering a LTR with her, that's a recipe for disaster.

You giving her one word answers to her texts shows her that your emotionally vunerable, not good! And why are you not talking to/hooking up with other chicks??

Keep hanging out with her, but don't put too much stock in her. Start to de-attach from the situation a bit and go meet more girls. Once this girl has proven to you that she is loyal to you and only you, then you can start to think about progessing.

However with you guys being so young, she's recently single and summer coming up.... I'd say you should keep your options open.

Lastly, why haven't you fuvked her yet?? Your best shot of turning her into putty for you is fuvkin' her good, she'll be at your mercy.




PIMP

 

[Kevin Feng]

That's just disrespectful, you don't mack on your mate's friends. Bring it up with her and tell her to not do it again, or ****'s going to hit the fan. That's just basic common courtesy. I mean, you're not dating her, but on the same token, that is a boundary that she should respect.

As far as your friend goes, that's pretty crappy. I'd say something like,

"Yeah, how'd my **** taste? , it was in there about 2 hours prior"