SteR said:
This is the second time this has happened as of late, and both times I must've handled it okay because I got the girl in the end but I wonder how other people handle it?
Anyway, the problem is when chatting to a girl in bar/party whatever and the girl starts commenting about how attactive/good looking one of my friends is. I knew instantly they were trying to spark a reaction, so I just said something along the lines of "yea he's a good looking guy" and then went on to something else.
How do you other guys deal with this situation? I just wonder if there's something 'better' I could come out with?
You can also use this to boost your own social status in her eyes.
Her:
"Your friend is good looking"
You
"We'll thats a given"
Her:
"What do you mean"
You
At this stage you can spin her a story how you see good looking chicks with fat birds, so to boost the good looking chicks status - (remember your conversation doesn't have to slot into a format, this will then ideally lead off to other threads with her taking over about how she feels about it) : i.e
"I like to keep good company, i feel it's a reflection of the friends you keep, for example, (point to some fat chick with an attractive friend) see that girl over there, the chubby one, with the attractive friend, when I see that I cant help to think the attractive girl has low self esteem and is out with the fat chick to boost her profile, what do you think? (dont give an opinion, just skirt on the subject) - then extend the thread and point to some attractive girl groups to exemplify your point - ie. "look at those girls all attractive, you normally see hot people with hot people, or is that just me?
(edit, she could shi* test you at this stage, which ideally is what you want, she could say "what's he doing out with you then (with a shi* eating smile on her face)" - this is a shi* test, a chance to build up attraction, the way you respond is the true test of your inner confidence and personal value" - A good reply would be "I make him look good", assume your the HOTTER ONE)
I.e assume when she compliments your friend she is complimenting YOU!
The wrong thing to do is in my mind is to put your friend down or to try to make him out to be the enemy.
But it's a balance - you dont want to big him up too much, if anything turn it around as an increase to your social status by the value he brings - if he is a true wing, he will add to your value instead of muscling in anyway.
Unless he is a tard which sadly most men are when out in the field and will probably use the opportunity to steal the girl from you - if that is the case and you know he will take her away, i.e he isn't a wing just a self opportunist.
Simply say this "Ah yes, I was at his childs christening the other week" - As long has she wont speak to him your cool. (edit, this is assuming your good looking friends knows how to handle the situation, sometimes its better for her to interact with the AFC good looking guy, and watch as she drifts back your way when he fails to meet her expectations, i.e if she makes a bee line for him, ignore it and do your own thing, blank her out of your mind, next her if you must, but observe and see the reaction from the interacton, in some cases she will drift back to you, if you where more interesting).
But if anything the best way and I MEAN THE BEST WAY! Is to increase your social value by going out with the right people who will big you up to girls.
For example if she said that about my friends and closed him, I know he will be talking highly about me, likewise me about him - if she prefers him so be it, many girls in the bar, but I wont put him down and he wont either - but on the other hand if she still persists for my friend, i'd be happy for him. But normally, these things pan out where the girl has equal value in her eyes for the both of you, and if your mate is a true wing he will back himself out of the situation of get his own girl, unless he is a letch.
I dont agree for one second about making the chick uncomfortable, bars and clubs are highly charged places, girls get bored, you make her uncomfortable - she will probably in most cases move onto a shinier object - Keep it fun, high energy, spot ways to increase your value, make your friends out to be GODS, in comparison you'll be seen the same way - value by association.
