"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to handle the 'other' guy issue

jefe96

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I know one of the main rules/requirements of being a DJ is to have the attitude that there is no other guy and that you are the only guy that a chick wants to be with, and any other guy is nothing compared to you.

However, the situation is bound to come up every once in a while. This one chick tells me that she was out with a guy 'friend' of hers last night. I just brushed it off as no big deal and asked her if she had fun at the event they were at. I don't know everything about this girl, so maybe it is just some friend or chump guy she hangs out with. I've never known a chick to be up front with the fact that she was out with someone else unless it is just a friend. Normally there are lies to be told.

Based on the past few times we've been out I know quite well that she's very interested in me based on her actions and words. So far I've been playing it well, not too much phone contact (in fact she calls me normally) and only see her like once a week. Am I playing this one right by not really giving in to what might be some kind of test from her? There is no one-itis but she is a cool chick compared to others.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Just focus on the subject, unless the subject is the other guy. Until she focuses the conversation on him, keep playing it the way that you are. If it changes, get her back on track by telling her that he's not the one that interests you.
 

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Originally posted by jefe96
I know one of the main rules/requirements of being a DJ is to have the attitude that there is no other guy and that you are the only guy that a chick wants to be with, and any other guy is nothing compared to you.

So whats the problem?
All chicks have a string of guys they go out with, beta backups, FB's, potential FB's, potential LTR's etc etc this has nothing to do with you.

I cant stress this enough, that is HER reality and should not exist to you.
Use the knowledge to fvck her ASAP should be your only concern, rinse and repeat until you succeed or fail for whatever reason.

"I went out with (insert random joe's name) last night"

"Excellent, I ate a taco"

Then back to gaming the b!tch until shes on your knob or nexted.
 

drZaius09

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Re: Re: How to handle the 'other' guy issue

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
So whats the problem?
All chicks have a string of guys they go out with, beta backups, FB's, potential FB's, potential LTR's etc etc this has nothing to do with you.

I cant stress this enough, that is HER reality and should not exist to you.
Use the knowledge to fvck her ASAP should be your only concern, rinse and repeat until you succeed or fail for whatever reason.

"I went out with (insert random joe's name) last night"

"Excellent, I ate a taco"

Then back to gaming the b!tch until shes on your knob or nexted.
I love this guy. I don't even have to say anything.

"I ate a taco" hahahaha, thats classic!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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drZaius09

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Originally posted by jefe96
I know one of the main rules/requirements of being a DJ is to have the attitude that there is no other guy and that you are the only guy that a chick wants to be with, and any other guy is nothing compared to you.
If that's what being a "DJ" is all about, then none of us need any part of this board.

To add to what my man said, being a MAN is about not giving a sh#t about "other guys," not giving a sh#t whether you are the "only guy," and handling your own business without concern of whether anyone else compares to you.
 

speedo_meme

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yes, you have to love the tit guy, i think i'll be eating more tacos in the near future.....
 
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