how to handle insults..

[Jair213]

We have all heard this from woman.

You are so stupid.

Your a dumb ass.

Are you dumb?

Your so pathetic.

Idiot.

Or any type of insult/disrespect.

Do you guy's stay quiet? Or just ignore? How do you guys exactly respond/handle this type of disrespect?

 

[cervantesscthree]

I usually keep quiet then burst out laughing, or just turn deaf on her and go about as if I'm alone in the room, or if I've been having doubts about her to begin with, I cut her off.

To be honest, I'm usually the one throwing out all the playful insults (constantly) and sometimes I get carried away, so if she replies with something back, I usually deserve it. But I still do either one of the actions I stated above . . . But if you really don't give a ****, you can just grin back at them and come back with a horrible (yet careful) ego crushing insult and laugh afterwards, to soften the blow of course. This is a mean tactic and very bully like, but if you feel you can't ignore it then say whatever. There's plenty more fish in the pool, so if all goes downhill look back on yr behaviour, improve it, then move on.

 

[Syrio]

I don't mean to sound like a d1ck or anything and I'm not exactly a pro at this DJ stuff but to be completely honest I don't think I've ever heard a woman say anything like that to me in a serious light. I've never had a woman straight up insult me to my face. I think if they did I would be kinda pissed and I feel like my gut reaction would be to challenge their accusation and ask them to explain to me why they think I'm pathetic/stupid/whatever... Not that this is what you should do, I just think that's what I would end up doing.

 

[FairShake]

I don't really get those much. Girls call me weird I guess, but only in jest or only when I make a weird comment.

If I were you I would reply with something really random like "Yeah well you have an Asian penis" and eject. But take a look at what you're doing that causes that reaction. Most girls who are not interested will politely deflect your advances or stay quiet and try to ignore you. b!tches will, of course, be b!tches but the majority of girls won't. If you are constantly getting these reactions reevaluate your approach.

 

[Jair213]

I don't really get those much. Girls call me weird I guess, but only in jest or only when I make a weird comment.

If I were you I would reply with something really random like "Yeah well you have an Asian penis" and eject. But take a look at what you're doing that causes that reaction. Most girls who are not interested will politely deflect your advances or stay quiet and try to ignore you. b!tches will, of course, be b!tches but the majority of girls won't. If you are constantly getting these reactions reevaluate your approach.

i am talking about when your in a relationship and have an argument and she disrespects you like that.

 

[cervantesscthree]

My reply was in that context Jair, to be honest you shouldn't really be getting into arguments too often (close to never in my opinion). So you might want to look at upping yr game in general and re-evaluating the whole relationship to see where you can improve things, then see what happens, rather than get into wasteful bickering with her.

 

[Jair213]

My reply was in that context Jair, to be honest you shouldn't really be getting into arguments too often (close to never in my opinion). So you might want to look at upping yr game in general and re-evaluating the whole relationship to see where you can improve things, then see what happens, rather than get into wasteful bickering with her.

yeah man i was just asking because i went through a lot disrespect with my BPD ex. i was super afc too. so yeah.

 

[handle]

If someone is saying stuff like that to me during fights I just drop them. There are many, many respectful women out there who aren't going to get irrationally nasty during a disagreement. Not point in wasting your time on the ones who do.

A lot of women who say shiet like this want to get a rise out of you, I don't bother. I don't care if they think it's weak or non-masculine to not respond. They aren't my "target audience" I'm looking to spend time with so who cares?

 

[Greasy Pig]

Amused mastery.
Her: "You're so disorganised. Look at this place. You're a pig."
You: "I'm a pig with a massive c0ck."
"I'm the pig who had you bent over the couch last night."
"That's not what your mum/friend/cousin/sister said last weekend."
"How about you put on a little French maid for me and sort this joint out toots?"
"Don't worry, I've got a 20-year-old exchange student coming to stay next week. She'll sort it out if she knows what's good for her."
You get the drift.

 

[Brosy]

The bottom line is, we should all strive to spend our precious time on this planet with others who want to spend time with us and whose company we enjoy.

If someone is treating you poorly, calling you names, criticising constantly, etc? Stop spending time with that person.

Agree (with this and with Handle) , if you are in the middle of a relationship you won't see it right now, but months after its over you'll kick yourself for accepting this cr@p.

My last GF started going this way, not as bad as your examples, just general tutting and sh!t, she was warned once, second time I walked out, then just faded the whole thing out while she kept asking "why do you hate me?". I didn't want to spend time with someone like that, something was clearly broken.

"You deserve what you tolerate".

 

[VladPatton]

You nip that shıt in the ass the very first time she calls you a name. You yourself shouldn't call her names, either, so she gets zero rights to doing it to you. Only couples that are in bullshıt pseudo-relationships always fight and call each other horrific names. Why? Just break up. Don't be one of those.

 

[backseatjuan]

We have all heard this from woman.

I haven't.

You are so stupid.

Your a dumb ass.

Are you dumb?

Your so pathetic.

Idiot.

What your response is depends on the emotion it was said with. You can say all these things playfully, or in a very harsh manner. Thus your response could be anything from calling her names in return, punching her out cold, or taking a knife to her throat.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Lots of comments here saying "don't insult her back". I don't necessarily agree or disagree because these situations are so subjective and unique to each person.

Generally if a woman is that disrespectful and insulting I will say something along the lines of:

"Shut up wh0re"

Telling women to "shut up" is usually the best response to an insulting attack. Its dismissive, yet its not passive.

I believe passive responses are weak. If she does it again I'll just end the relationship unless I find her tirades erotic and entertaining. To be honest.. sometimes its hot when women are b!tchy. But it depends on the situation.

 

[Bokanovsky]

yeah man i was just asking because i went through a lot disrespect with my BPD ex. i was super afc too. so yeah.

Women only resort to insults when they think they can get away with it. If you weren't an AFC, you wouldn't have been insulted like that to begin with.

 

[SamTheHobit]

"Shut up wh0re"

Hahaha another brilliant post by playerman!

Funny enough I think women insult men in a different way. Kinda like instead of telling you want a fvck up you are she will flirt with another guy.

Dont know if this makes sense.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Women only resort to insults when they think they can get away with it. If you weren't an AFC, you wouldn't have been insulted like that to begin with.

This is a massive half-truth. The reality is that ANY type of man can get insulted by a woman. Even Hitler or a the CEO of a company or Bradly Cooper.

There is no type of man that makes ALL women cower in fear, admiration and respect. Some women are crazy, some are bold and some are arrogant.

You are not living in reality if you believe NO woman can ever insult an "alpha" :crackup: If you get out there and TRULY spin plates and you meet some wackos that no type of "alpha game" will control.

 

[backseatjuan]

^that is true of western women, most of which are wackos and can't cook.

In Russia fortunately women don't insult alpha men -- assuming you're not alpha and an alcoholic at the same time. But even then, they better be careful, on my eyes and with me participating, a woman got beat the sh`t out of her for insulting me and my friend.

 

[Bokanovsky]

This is a massive half-truth. The reality is that ANY type of man can get insulted by a woman. Even Hitler or a the CEO of a company or Bradly Cooper.

There is no type of man that makes ALL women cower in fear, admiration and respect. Some women are crazy, some are bold and some are arrogant.

I think you misunderstood what I was saying. I'm not suggesting that there are men out there who are so "alpha" that no woman would dare insult them. However, in the context of an existing relationship, a woman would not insult you in the way described in the original post without you being an AFC. Ii can honestly say that I have never had a woman say "you are so dumb" or "you're a dumb@ss" to me.

 

[PlayHer Man]

I think you misunderstood what I was saying. I'm not suggesting that there are men out there who are so "alpha" that no woman would dare insult them. However, in the context of an existing relationship, a woman would not insult you in the way described in the original post without you being an AFC. Ii can honestly say that I have never had a woman say "you are so dumb" or "you're a dumb@ss" to me.

Well that's true.

 

[Trump]

We have all heard this from woman.

You are so stupid.

Your a dumb ass.

Are you dumb?

Your so pathetic.

Idiot.

Or any type of insult/disrespect.

Do you guy's stay quiet? Or just ignore? How do you guys exactly respond/handle this type of disrespect?

Personal attack - I would rip her to shreds. For me, respect is the most important thing.

If you don't counter, what are you going to do when you really have to step up and protect her from some guy harassing her?