"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to handle asking out co-worker

Pimp-sicle

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samspade said:
Even though I always think I will avoid it, I seem to have no problem attracting and sleeping with/dating women at work.

I'd advise against it because of the drama involved, but if you think you must, I will tell you what worked for me (even though I wasn't really trying).

Basically, DO NOT ask her out. Continue with the flirting. Go out to after-work drinks with the office sometimes, sometimes go home when everyone else goes out. Whatever you do, don't make it look like you're looking for an actual "date," because even a whiff of that might ruin whatever fun you two are having through flirting, or whatever fantasy she might be considering with you. And enjoy the thought of having someone there to flirt with every day. Be subtly pervy but don't get into trouble.

And don't just flirt with her. Flirt with every girl in the office. Old women, married women, ugly women. Be known as the guy in the office who flirts and women think is funny. (Just don't cross any lines.)

Finally, rid your mind of any expectations of getting together with this girl. The more free you are mentally, the more confident and charming you will be. Just tell yourself, "she's cute, we can flirt, but we work together."

In a nutshell, be the fun-loving guy and DJ you know yourself to be, and pretty soon this girl and some others will probably start thinking about throwing themselves at you, until they can't hold back. Like I said, it's happened to me at different jobs, and the main reason was because I stayed non-chalant and flirty and reasoned with myself that I wasn't going to be hooking up with anyone at work...and then it happened anyway because it was so easy. This included some great experiences with my hot boss in her office. A lot of fun but a lot of drama so be careful!


This $$$$$$ advice!!!





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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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thedeparted

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You'll get so much farther at work letting the women fantasize about you then actually dipping your stick in the company ink well.
 
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