"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to guage a girls interest

sstype

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I called two different girls last night. One of them is in my lit class who I swear I think she is in love with me. Average/cute looking

And another one is a girl I knew back in third grade whom I recently saw at church last week. Cute/Attractive looking


Girl from Lit:
sstype: Hey they might let me off work early on Saturday, so I could probably take you to a movie that night.
girl: Ill ask my mom to see if she will let me, let me know tomorrow night if ur gonna be able to get off work.

She then continues to send me 50 more text messages about what class she is taking, where she is eating, etc. etc.


Girl from church:
sstype: Hey I gotta get going, but saturday night we could meet up and catch a movie.
girl: well, I will be with some friends that night....
sstype: ....well thats cool, Monday night we can go then.
girl: well, I have gymnastics practice every night....
sstype: ....ok (waiting for HER to structure an opportunity)
girl: ...
sstype: well then, it was nice getting to hear from ya, and I will call you back (not)
girl: OK BYE!


Lol, pretty funny huh. This was at the same night also I was with that coworker chick that I have been trying to hook up with. So it is nice when you have options cause you dont get tied up with one girl.

If the girl from church had really found me attractive, she would have set aside 2 hours of her life to meet up with me. It is obvious she wont. So i will not be calling her back.

What I am trying to say, that guys, if a girl IS interested in you, SHE WILL make it easy for you to close her! EVEN if you act a little nervous around her, or ya say something akward, whatever, she will fycking forgive you as long as she is attracted! On the other hand, no C&F, push/pull, hypnosis, will hardly shift the girl's perception of ya if she does not find you attractive.

There was a quote from Gunwitch method that I really liked. Here it is...

"When women love us, they forgive us everything, even our crimes; when they do not love us, they give us credit for nothing, not even our virtues” – Balzac
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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you wanna know what gripes me, why our names or the names of the people we talk to needs to be kept secret.

i mean if you or whoever is talking in pretense about a conversation that went down wherever.

why does it need to be sstype: blah blah i mean lets say your name is TOM who the fu*k is a TOM to me? nobody, its not like your putting down your Social security number, and address.

and on that note wtf is up with HB8: blah blah, the name of the girl your speaking to means even less than your name ..
 

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sstype, this is what i've been saying all along. There HAS TO BE some initial unspoken attraction between you, otherwise nothing said will change it!

You can be nervous and a bit awkward at first. It's human nature, and if she likes you .. even can work to your advantage in clueing her in more that you like her also.
 

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Originally posted by christz
you wanna know what gripes me, why our names or the names of the people we talk to needs to be kept secret.

i mean if you or whoever is talking in pretense about a conversation that went down wherever.

why does it need to be sstype: blah blah i mean lets say your name is TOM who the fu*k is a TOM to me? nobody, its not like your putting down your Social security number, and address.

and on that note wtf is up with HB8: blah blah, the name of the girl your speaking to means even less than your name ..
I made the mistake of putting my real name (and girls name) a couple of years back. My girl then FOUND this site and discovered EVERYTHING about my 'secret identity' by doing a search on our names. That sure took some explaining. We eventually broke up, and that didn't help. Off topic sorry.

Back on topic, I think it's more productive for DJs to look for IODS (indicators of DISinterest) rather than IOIs. Girls don't always make it clear when they like you, but they're pretty good at making it clear when they don't. Best thing is to assume they do until they prove otherwise.
 

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Ecuse me...


Originally posted by tmpgstx
sstype, this is what i've been saying all along. There HAS TO BE some initial unspoken attraction between you, otherwise nothing said will change it!
Please Clarify this one, its interesting... "INITIAL UNSPOKEN ATTRACTION" Between you...

Glad to know that Thaks.

Wind20mph
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sstype

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Originally posted by christz
you wanna know what gripes me, why our names or the names of the people we talk to needs to be kept secret.

i mean if you or whoever is talking in pretense about a conversation that went down wherever.

why does it need to be sstype: blah blah i mean lets say your name is TOM who the fu*k is a TOM to me? nobody, its not like your putting down your Social security number, and address.

and on that note wtf is up with HB8: blah blah, the name of the girl your speaking to means even less than your name ..
umm dude...who cares??
 
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