How to grow some balls!!!

[moneyisking]

Having an older brother who is a confident player has few advantages... and one is him giving me simple advices that work. We were going somewhere in his vehicle, and I asked him why he gets laid and I don't, and why the whole "women thing" is so easy for him, but not for me.

He says, "all you need is just tiny little bit of balls and tell the girl 'hey I thought you were really cute' with a smile. If she doesn't like you, just back off and do it to someone else, or if she does, get her number and go out with her"

Honestly I can't even smile at a girl. I saw this girl that I thought was super cute at the gym, but couldn't smile at her. How do you grow balls? Is it tightly related to self-esteem and confidence? How do you grow some pinches cojones???!!!

 

[Atom Smasher]

Simple.

You need to start off small. Go out and about during the day on the weekend, catch the eye of ANY female that you pass by, and smile. That includes elderly ladies. Just get used to a non-commital, friendly smile.

Do that ten times at least on each outing. That will definitely loosen you up. You'll probably find that you'll get several stone faces in return along with several smiles. Do that for a few days and you'll see that you're ready for the next step - Smiling at a girl you want to game. Baby steps are great for desensitizing.

 

[donjuanapprentice01]

It's not easy. Been there done that. The only real advice is, you just got to do it. Put yourself out there, walk by and say hi, see how she responds. Then start off with small talk. If you are at a gym, ask her about her workout routine, etc... You just got to do it really. I got over it, and now I am in a steady relationship with a hot chick. But its alot easier said than done, I know where you are coming from.

 

[metoo]

Karate and combat pistol match shooting did it for me. Once I was proven to be a top 10% competitor in both those fields, men and women at the competitions sort of "looked up" to me, and the confidence so inspired helped me with women. Neither of those fields is likely to have hot women available directly, tho. There's always a bf, father, etc in the wings to give you static, but sometimes, if the father likes your abilities, he will actually try to set you up with her. Me, I had a fellow shooter's wife actaully become the mother of my child, and my of and on lover for over 20 years.

 

[Mike32ct]

Simple.

You need to start off small. Go out and about during the day on the weekend, catch the eye of ANY female that you pass by, and smile. That includes elderly ladies. Just get used to a non-commital, friendly smile.

Do that ten times at least on each outing. That will definitely loosen you up. You'll probably find that you'll get several stone faces in return along with several smiles. Do that for a few days and you'll see that you're ready for the next step - Smiling at a girl you want to game. Baby steps are great for desensitizing.

^This. You can't just walk into a gym the first time and bench 250#. Don't expect to have massive b*lls overnight. Think of b*lls as a muscle that you train over time. Start out small and build it up.

 

[moneyisking]

damn nothing is easy haha

 

[RedZone]

Like everybody else keeps saying you got to start off small and keep building. Even if one day you say hi to a girl and the next day you have a small conversation. Might even help at first trying to talk to a cashier at a retail store just to get in the groove of doing it.

You're right in one sense when you said nothing is easy. You just gotta work at it an get better. One day you just don't magically wake up with all the answers. Luckily, you have a brother that can teach you a bit...you can even watch what he does. That's what I did with my friend. I could talk to girls but I was never too smooth, but I picked up on things my friend did and made progress. I'm still not the greatest, however I do realize I have the tools in me to succeed.

 

[black jesus]

i think u dont nesesarily need to start with women. just find something that u are scared of and say wow im scared of this!! then once u realize this imagine someone daring you to do it and just ******* do it
#for me when ppl dare me to do stuff it gives me more of an edge- dont ask why

 

[Super Hero]

In the end . . "Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do"