How to greet a chick you've just met in RL after a long text game?

[MoreThanSmooth]

So I've been talking to this cute girl I met on OLD by mobile text for like a week now, she's the kind of girl who likes to send very long and detailed text messages - so it's hard to keep my responses short and I'm in danger of getting boring.

Anyway, she lives in London and I'm like an hour away, so I'm looking to arrange a date with her but it's not trivial to get up there.

When I meet her in RL, what sort of level of familiarity should I be going for? If I'd been on a date with this girl I'd go straight for a hug when I said hi and escalate to a kiss quickly, but I'm in the weird position of knowing her fairly well through texting but being at Square 1 with regard to in-person interaction.

 

[flowtheory]

So I've been talking to this cute girl I met on OLD by mobile text for like a week now, she's the kind of girl who likes to send very long and detailed text messages - so it's hard to keep my responses short and I'm in danger of getting boring.

Anyway, she lives in London and I'm like an hour away, so I'm looking to arrange a date with her but it's not trivial to get up there.

When I meet her in RL, what sort of level of familiarity should I be going for? If I'd been on a date with this girl I'd go straight for a hug when I said hi and escalate to a kiss quickly, but I'm in the weird position of knowing her fairly well through texting but being at Square 1 with regard to in-person interaction.

That’s the pitfalls of establishing too much of a connection before actually meeting her. Text connection and real life are two different worlds.
I have been here and still go there at times though. Usually I show up to the date way more relaxed; because well, you two already connect mentally in some way, you’ve ticked a couple boxes. I would probably call out to her to get her attention, give her a good hug, a quick compliment and then quickly ask about something you messaged about, escalate from there. Everything is pretty simple if you’re well connected through text world already and maybe have called her, now it’s just about maintaining that confidence and coolness and hope there is physical/visceral connection.

Take off all the pressure, because at the end of the day, who cares if you don’t really connect like you thought you would?

 

[IKO69]

You have to treat them as if you have been long lost friends. It's hard to explain but it is the quickest way to establish "comfort" They open up quite quickly....some people have this natural ability. It helps if you can "let go" around people - many people are worried about being judged.

 

[Glassguy]

Give them a hug, go in and start feeding her drinks and let the conversation unfold.

Escalate if you are getting a good vibe.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Kiss on both cheeks. Hugging is for friends.

 

[logicallefty]

Most of my first dates from online dates are to Buffalo Wild Wings. Why? Because no matter how boring the chick is or how things go down with her, I know what I am getting in the wings and I know I will at least enjoy those. That being said, a first date typically goes like this:

Meet at front door area. I don't generally hug or peck on the cheek, but if if she initiates it its OK.
LL: Nice to meet you, you really do exist. Your not a robot or 400lb man from his mom's basement (this goes back to my pre-date text humor where I often will ask a woman if she is a robot or 400lb man sitting in his underwear in mom's basement pretending to be a woman)
HB: haha nope, I am a real woman, from head to toe!
LL: We are off to a good start so far
(I always try to sit either by the exit or in the chair at our table closest to the exit, so then I can make my next humor play)
LL: I'm gonna take this seat right here, closest to the door. That way if you are crazy I can run out fast! Got my running boots on too!
HB: You better get ready to run!
(so at this point, we JUST sat down and hopefully she is already laughing and things are already starting to loosen up.. Starting before we even get to the table)

For me, my humor game is the core of it. My humor is genuine to me and almost all non-sexual. Just as important as making her laugh to build rapport with me, I use it just as much to see how she reacts and to decide if she is dull and boring and a waste of my time.