How to go from smiling to actually talking?

[hhdk]

Hi, I've been getting the DJ Tips in my inbox for some time, and I've just discovered this forum, so here is my first post.

The situation
There's this girl from school - we're both in the same year - that have been smiling at me since I can remember, who I also smile back at. We don't have any activities together at all, besides attending the same school (we don't go to class together)

The question
How do I approach her in the best way? What to say, where to say it?

I've been thinking about something like this: "It's Caroline, right? I just wanted to let you know that I've noticed your cute smile and lovely eyes, when you smile and look at me, my toes crumbles".
I know her name, it's not Caroline, and I've done my best to translate what I had in mind, so the last bit "my troes crumbles" might sound weird to you, since it's a danish expression. Besides that, how's that for an approach? How to continue or close the conversation?

Bonus info about me
I'm 19. I've always been single. She's about same age and I don't know about her relationship status, not 100 percent.


Thank you for reading this, I hope you'll have a thing a two to say about this.

 

[BongDuy]

when you see her smiling at you and making eye contact with you, bust out

" Are you undressing me with your eyes?"

it will get her to laugh or atleast shine you a bigger smile. if she gets all defensive like " oh no no! i was looking at blah blah blah" then i would consider that her showing interests. Introduce yourself and begin having a conversation.

 

[eaglez1177]

Hope this helps

Hi, I've been getting the DJ Tips in my inbox for some time, and I've just discovered this forum, so here is my first post.

The situation
There's this girl from school - we're both in the same year - that have been smiling at me since I can remember, who I also smile back at. We don't have any activities together at all, besides attending the same school (we don't go to class together)

The question
How do I approach her in the best way? What to say, where to say it?

I've been thinking about something like this: "It's Caroline, right? I just wanted to let you know that I've noticed your cute smile and lovely eyes, when you smile and look at me, my toes crumbles".Dear god please do not say that. Just say something like "Hey your Caroline right? I never got a chance to introduce myself, im blah blah"
I know her name, it's not Caroline, and I've done my best to translate what I had in mind, so the last bit "my troes crumbles" might sound weird to you, since it's a danish expression. Besides that, how's that for an approach? How to continue or close the conversation?As for continuing, just be comfortable and use all the normal techniques shown her on this site. Look at the HS bible at "The art of conversation" by Pulse. That may help you as much as it did me. As for closing, just say something like "Okay well I gotta get going now, whats your number I wanna get to know you better/I wanna hang out with you sometime"

Bonus info about me
I'm 19. I've always been single. She's about same age and I don't know about her relationship status, not 100 percent.


Thank you for reading this, I hope you'll have a thing a two to say about this.

 

[hhdk]

when you see her smiling at you and making eye contact with you, bust out

" Are you undressing me with your eyes?"
[...]

I would never have thought of anything like this by myself, I have some questions about though.

We're usually not that close to make a normal conversation. When we're making eye contact, it's more like across a big room when we do it, so to make her hear it I would be yelling it a her.

But yea, if she isn't far away the next time she'll do it, I could keep eye contact with her, and approach her and say it. But what about her friends? I can't remember seeing her going alone anywhere in school. I've always seen her walking with a girl or two from her class.

 

[hhdk]

@eaglez1177

I see your point, good thing that it only was something I thought of.
- Just to assure you, I won't say that

I'll definitely study the HS bible, it's essential for me.

 

[jeffthechef]

hhdk..honestly, i don't think you'll learn much this way

i did the same thing too though..most of us did...we come to this site and are amazed at all the available information..then we immediately begin to ask questions, expecting guru answers..which some of us do have but you will not benefit from too much at this point

read the dj bible..you might also find the thread i wrote interesting...it's the link on my signature

you're still at an eraly stage...i know this by the question you're asking..

as for what if her friends are around...my response is:
Are you trying to number close them too? Would you like to number close her friends and her at the same time? Does it matter that they're there?

If it does, your confidence needs some building. Of course, doing that type of thing as a beginner would be hard...this is merely one girl in the long run...i suggest you become more of a dj/alpha/man...(i say man cause alphas and dj's are simply men, GENUINE MEN)...focus on learning first...then you must use that knowledge and apply it..experience is key..but after education

 

[hhdk]

@jeffthechef

I'll do some more reading.
I also share your thoughts, you only learn by doing - that's a fact

And I guess you're right about her friends, 'cause does it really matter if they're around? I actually don't really know why I worried about, but yea, it probably have to do with my inexperience and lack of self-confidence.

The place I feel most confident, is when I'm out with my friends at night and we or just I is out on the dancefloor, then I just step up to the girls and most of the time we end up dancing to a couple of tracks, and sometimes it gets intimate, which then leads to kissing. I just haven't approach them in any everyday-situation, because I don't know what to say or do - this is what I need to learn or gain experience with

 

[ElCubanito13]

best thing is to be ****y and funny like BongDuy said