"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to get this girl back

Crissco

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We used to talk when we were 14, she used to be OBSESSED with me and i mean obssesed, put my pictures in her locker and everything,funny part was we never met and we only talked on the phone. Funny part is now im the one wanting her lol. We talked on facebook last night I told her ide call her around 11 or 12. I called 12 30 and her phone was off. I hit her up on FB she signed off right away. She seems pissed at me, I just hit her up again today saying i was sorry and something came up. Now shes not messaging me back. How do i get this girl back?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Mantis Toboggan

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Crissco said:
We used to talk when we were 14, she used to be OBSESSED with me and i mean obssesed, put my pictures in her locker and everything,funny part was we never met and we only talked on the phone. Funny part is now im the one wanting her lol. We talked on facebook last night I told her ide call her around 11 or 12. I called 12 30 and her phone was off. I hit her up on FB she signed off right away. She seems pissed at me, I just hit her up again today saying i was sorry and something came up. Now shes not messaging me back. How do i get this girl back?
Get her back from what? I can't tell if you're drunk or just a bad storyteller.

So she liked you when you were 14. How long ago was that? 5 years? 10 years? Yesterday?

All I know is some girl liked you when you were 14, you never met her, and today she isn't returning your calls. And you want to "get her back" which sounds strange because it seems like you never had her in the first place.

Gayest story ever.
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
Get her back from what? I can't tell if you're drunk or just a bad storyteller.

So she liked you when you were 14. How long ago was that? 5 years? 10 years? Yesterday?

All I know is some girl liked you when you were 14, you never met her, and today she isn't returning your calls. And you want to "get her back" which sounds strange because it seems like you never had her in the first place.

Gayest story ever.
lol Yea im a pretty bad story teller, but this is a true story.
 

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sent her another message


"I dont know if you signed off on purpose or not last night but if u did thats a bit ****ed up, i only called u a half an hr later. this is gonna be my last attempt to contact u, if you dont want to talk anymore, thats cool with me?


then she signed off right away. Maybe that was a bit too much? ehh i guess im better off saying **** it and move on to another girl
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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cablecow15

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Crissco said:
**** it, it aint worth it, im gonig for other girls.
Ive had a few situations where I could have saved TONS of time if I would have done that , when in doubt , Fv#k em...
 

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Crissco said:
sent her another message


"I dont know if you signed off on purpose or not last night but if u did thats a bit ****ed up, i only called u a half an hr later. this is gonna be my last attempt to contact u, if you dont want to talk anymore, thats cool with me?


then she signed off right away. Maybe that was a bit too much? ehh i guess im better off saying **** it and move on to another girl

Bad move. If she had any interest at all there is a SMALL chance that it will make her take action, but more likely makes her think you're a reactive psycho. You HAVE to play stuff like that off like it doesnt bother you in the slightest.
 

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Crissco, I bet you $20 that if you get off the computer, game some other girls, and stop over-thinking everything, you can come back to this post in like 2 months and be embarrassed by how much of a pvssy you are here. I KNOW you're better than this.

What you SHOULD have done is not sent her any Facebook message at all, and then just called her up in a few days. While gaming other girls. You've been posting here awhile; you know better.

And then your second message just reeked of desperation and insecurity. I mean come on man...wtf? I feel like anybody who has been on this site longer than 15 minutes should know better than that.

Seriously were you drunk?

You've had some pretty good posts in the past, I'm just really surprised at all of this. You don't need advice from SoSuave, you need to just chill. What's helped me a lot is to lean WAY back and look at your girl situations with some objectivity. Think of your life as a post on here. How would you reply if somebody started this same thread? That forces you to think things through in a crisp and clean manner, without having any biases. Try it, it'll help a lot.

I know this got off topic but I feel like this thread of yours is a sudden outburst that if you really tried solving your own issues first, you'd easily find your solution. Which is why you could have been drunk.

Anyway, you know what to do. Now go do it and stop thinking so fvcking much.
 

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ARrocket said:
Crissco, I bet you $20 that if you get off the computer, game some other girls, and stop over-thinking everything, you can come back to this post in like 2 months and be embarrassed by how much of a pvssy you are here. I KNOW you're better than this.

What you SHOULD have done is not sent her any Facebook message at all, and then just called her up in a few days. While gaming other girls. You've been posting here awhile; you know better.

And then your second message just reeked of desperation and insecurity. I mean come on man...wtf? I feel like anybody who has been on this site longer than 15 minutes should know better than that.

Seriously were you drunk?

You've had some pretty good posts in the past, I'm just really surprised at all of this. You don't need advice from SoSuave, you need to just chill. What's helped me a lot is to lean WAY back and look at your girl situations with some objectivity. Think of your life as a post on here. How would you reply if somebody started this same thread? That forces you to think things through in a crisp and clean manner, without having any biases. Try it, it'll help a lot.

I know this got off topic but I feel like this thread of yours is a sudden outburst that if you really tried solving your own issues first, you'd easily find your solution. Which is why you could have been drunk.

Anyway, you know what to do. Now go do it and stop thinking so fvcking much.
Your 100% right bro. No other way around it. She did hit back up though, which is good thing, not with much interest but better then nothing. My next day off im thinknig abotu going to the local college and gaming as much girls as humanly possible to get my mind off of this chick
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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great news man, i haven't been on here long but i think people are confusing this site for an instructions manual when its really a guidebook.
 

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Thundernuts said:
great news man, i haven't been on here long but i think people are confusing this site for an instructions manual when its really a guidebook.
Def aggree with you on that one, Its like the DJ bible, thats a guideline for a lot of things, more then just women.
 
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