How to get shy girls....?

[S.Y.L]

I'm having problems with this one girl. I can talk to the HB10 girls in school, and flirt and make em chase me, but I'm not that interested in em for w/e reason, usualy just weird girls with nothing to be interested other than looks.

So this girl I actually wanna date (prob a 6.5, not very hot, shes kinda cute though) is really, really shy. I approach her, and in person, shes just, fricken quiet, but shows some interest, smiles and stuff. If I talk to her on the computer, she is completely different. Mabye I Intimidate her, because shes not use to guys like me. She has never approached me in person though.

The other day the girl I like's best friend asked me if I like her, because she said shes been talking about me quite a bit. I said "I Don't know, I've only talked to her a few times", and asked if she liked me. Her friend kept teasing me with the answer, but didn't say it.

The day after, I ask her friend for her number, so I can ask her out randomly, and send her flirty texts and stuff (girls love texting btw). Her friends like, nah, I think it would be better if you asked her yourself, trust me thats the better thing to do.

She said she wouldn't tell her friend, but I highly doubt this lol, girls tell eachother everything. But Did I make a bad mistake by asking her friend for her number?


Now what do I do, I've talked to her like 2-3 times in person for like 5 minutes, so its too early to ask her out, high schools weird like that.

Before I screw anything up big time, what now. I think shes interested, but I keep thinking I ****ed up somewhere, but I overthink stuff way too much.

 

[Mandiblard]

She likes you, there's nothing to worry about.

 

[S.Y.L]

Thats what I thought, should I just keep talking to her an eventually ask her out then?

 

[jeffthechef]

didn't even read your post but i can tell from your last two posts that the answer is simple...
work it for about a week to two...then ask her out somewhere..not necessarily a date but just out...good luck..
seize the day

 

[S.Y.L]

Makes sense. Ill keep at it.

Btw, by Seize the Day, do you mean the song by A7X, because thats a sick song.

 

[jeffthechef]

i was actually referring to the movie
dead poets society
Carpe diem boys..seize the day
“I went to the woods because I wanted to live deliberately, I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life, To put to rout all that was not life and not when I had come to die Discover that I had not lived.” henry david thoreau

you should watch trhat movie..it might help you realize how important some things are and how stupid some of our problems are

 

[S.Y.L]

I've seen the movie too. The Song has the same meaning btw.

 

[S.Y.L]

Btw, I realized my problem. I overthink ****ing everything too much

 

[jeffthechef]

you're probably analyzing her every interaction she makes with you...how why when where she said or did this....
you can't read her mind...you can't know all the circumstances...she looked your way...maybe there was an alpha behind you...she said hi...maybe she was acknowledging your friendship...if you don't have one..perhaps she was feeling so happy and random from being asked out....

Don't bother looking for ioi's...keyword LOOKING..
ioi's are good...but not when you search for them...
ioi's are things that you sense...BUT
if you're an afc...you probably don't get much action...thus, you'll probably take everything as an ioi

what are you thinking for? why do you need to know she's interested first?
what do you fear?

 

[Pdizzzzzzle]

first of all i recommend that in the future you take out the middle man (ie her friend). Having them in almost portrays that you don't have the balls to talk to her about ur relationship to be.

Secondly, if a friend randomly asks if you like so and so, its a dead give away your in.

Finally, if the girls so shy go and start talking to her or else when you start going out things might get a little awkward.

 

[War Against Betaism]

The key to shy girls is making them comfortable. The way to make them comfortable really is kino. I find that shy girls take a lot more offense to teasing than non shy girls so you probably shouldn't tease her as much until you can get really really comfortable with her.

 

[PhunGar]

i was actually referring to the movie
dead poets society
Carpe diem boys..seize the day
“I went to the woods because I wanted to live deliberately, I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life, To put to rout all that was not life and not when I had come to die Discover that I had not lived.” henry david thoreau

you should watch trhat movie..it might help you realize how important some things are and how stupid some of our problems are

good movie had to study it for year 10 advance english lolol.

Yea stop over analysing things
people smile all the time its hard to say if she likes you i am doubtful thou

Get to know her and it should come easily from there

 

[jeffthechef]

yeh..you know any movies like it?
for example..you might like finding forrester and good will hunting
they're kinda similar to dead poets society..
i wish i could find more like em

 

[S.Y.L]

first of all i recommend that in the future you take out the middle man (ie her friend). Having them in almost portrays that you don't have the balls to talk to her about ur relationship to be.

Secondly, if a friend randomly asks if you like so and so, its a dead give away your in.

Finally, if the girls so shy go and start talking to her or else when you start going out things might get a little awkward.

I almost went out with her friend before, and her friend has a boyfriend. Or do you mean take out, as get rid of.

So, if she is getting her friend to ask, she likes me? She did say she talks about me a lot too.

And yeah I need to talk to her more for sure.

 

[intrextrovert]

I get this problem too... especially skeptical girls, shy or not. Girls that overthink everything or are skeptical reck me, like asking why i want to do/do such and such, like shut the **** up you're ruining whatever might have been there.

Also if they're being quiet/reserved i feel like i'm killing my, i don't want to say alphaness but I can't think of a better word, by trying to engage her specifically when other girls are there.

 

[S.Y.L]

I get this problem too... especially skeptical girls, shy or not. Girls that overthink everything or are skeptical reck me, like asking why i want to do/do such and such, like shut the **** up you're ruining whatever might have been there.

Also if they're being quiet/reserved i feel like i'm killing my, i don't want to say alphaness but I can't think of a better word, by trying to engage her specifically when other girls are there.

Yeah I definatley know what you mean