How to get rid of trust issues?

[youngmack]

I admit I have trust issues. The sh!t that I read on this forum and hear about and the stuff that I have experienced(even though not a lot) continues to deeply ingrain these issues in my head. I have a hard time trusting girls and believing what they say. I always assume that when they say something or tell me they are doing stuff I always assume they are lying and doing/mean the opposite.

I am pushing away a quality girl right now because of those issues and what happened to me with the bpd ex a couple months ago. I want to get rid of these issues ,but idk how. I know it has something to do with inner game ,but idk where to start, or how to proceed.

Any help?

 

[youngmack]

Spin plates, depedestalize women, protect your heart.

I mean I do try to spin plates, but does that really get to the core of these issues?

 

[Checkmate12]

I admit I have trust issues. The sh!t that I read on this forum and hear about and the stuff that I have experienced(even though not a lot) continues to deeply ingrain these issues in my head. I have a hard time trusting girls and believing what they say. I always assume that when they say something or tell me they are doing stuff I always assume they are lying and doing/mean the opposite.

I am pushing away a quality girl right now because of those issues and what happened to me with the bpd ex a couple months ago. I want to get rid of these issues ,but idk how. I know it has something to do with inner game ,but idk where to start, or how to proceed.

Any help?

So if you go into with the DJ attitude that you are 'the stuff' and she is lucky that you are giving her the time of day, then you will also know that she wouldn't possibly do anything to mess things up with you by lying or gaming you, etc. Now just because we have this attitude does not at all mean these things are actually true, in fact she could be a lying skank, but we trust by default. Don't mistake this for naivety, you still want to have a strong awareness for what's really going on, but our bold confidence tells us that we are a catch and she would be crazy to betray our trust. Do not worry because she will reveal her true character in time. If we trust her and she lives up to this trust; her actions are congruent with her words and she doesn't mislead you, then awesome, she's loyal, has high interest and she's a keeper. If she doesn't and she is caught in a lie, then awesome, we know she is a waste of time and can immediately weed her out. And our heart isn't broken because why on earth would we want a lying excuse of a woman anyways? Win/win.