"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to get RID if a girl

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Everyone is concerned with getting a girl but how do you get RID of one?

Perhaps I should give a bit of background. I met this girl when I was a major AFC (not just a minor one like I am now). I've been with her for 6 years. This is the longest I've ever been with a girl.

Yes I have been with other girls and we have broken up several times, but she always comes back. I have told her I am sick of her and asked her to leave me alone. But she always finds a way back. I had a near death experience recently
and got back with her (again). I have gotten my life back together and met a new girl. We have already been on a date and everything is going good. Got another date Saturday.

The problem is I need to get rid of LTR girl and breaking up with her isn't working.

Like tonight, I told her to leave me alone I don't want to hang out.

She knocks on my door UNINVITED at midnight trying to get inside.

I threatened to call the cops and she left.

I want to bring new girl over tomorrow. What if she knocks when new girl is over here?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Play the Game said:
Start Stalking her, and calling her 10 times a day. Guaranteed to work.

I don't think that will work with this one. She will like me doing that stuff.

Any other advice?
 

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restraining order? lol

seriously give it some thought...


just say some mean **** to her, like u've cheated on her multiple times.. and that she should get some self respect and leave you alone..
 
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sav said:
restraining order? lol

seriously give it some thought...


just say some mean **** to her, like u've cheated on her multiple times.. and that she should get some self respect and leave you alone..
She knows I cheated already. I was mean tonight. Very mean.

She knocked on my door saying she wanted to come in. I told her to NEVER come over without being invited and told her to F-CK OFF very loud and the neighbors probably heard. Then I threatened to call the cops and she bounced because I'm pretty sure she had weed with her.

Keep in mind I spoke to her a half hour before this and told her I am tired and want to be alone. Yet she comes by like she owns the place. What if I had new girl over tonight.. not good.

On top of all this she's a fukkin bum with no job, no car, and no education and I am sick of her mooching off me all the time. She sucks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My Name is Nobody said:
She knows I cheated already. I was mean tonight. Very mean.

She knocked on my door saying she wanted to come in. I told her to NEVER come over without being invited and told her to F-CK OFF very loud and the neighbors probably heard. Then I threatened to call the cops and she bounced because I'm pretty sure she had weed with her.

Keep in mind I spoke to her a half hour before this and told her I am tired and want to be alone. Yet she comes by like she owns the place. What if I had new girl over tonight.. not good.

On top of all this she's a fukkin bum with no job, no car, and no education and I am sick of her mooching off me all the time. She sucks.
she sounds like quite a catch! ;)

tell her u will get a restraining order against her as u dont want anything to do with her...

and im serious about it.. she's not good news....

forget about her.. cut off all contact... delete from your facebook, delete from msn... delete her phone number or better yet put a block on it...

this person doesnt exist for you... if u have a new girl over and she comes knocking.. tell ur date "excuse me..., my ex is stalking me, im very sorry, i have to deal with this" step out of your condo, and ***** her the **** out, tell her about the restraining order, and go back to having a good time with ur new girl.... im sure she wont hate you for it.. just explain to her that she's a psycho and that you want NOTHING to do with her...
 
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Not bad guys. She'll be calling tomorrow most likely.

In her mind we are still together and everything is cool. But I do think she is suspicious that I have met someone else.

The problem with this girl is I have told her I want to see other girls. I have told her I am sick of her. The reason I am still with this girl is because nothing panned out with the other girls.

And since nothing pans out I have my ex begging to come f@ck me what am I supposed to do?

BUT.. I think something is finally going right with this new girl.. she is cool, attractive, and she really likes me.


I am also thinking of inviting new girl over tomorrow and 99 percent chance she will ACCEPT even though we have plans for Saturday..

I have nothing to do tomorrow so why not invite her over she wants to come.
 

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I understand you have nothing to do.

The thing is you don't want to look like
a needy clingy guy or what ever and call
the new one to come over just because your not
doing anything.

In my opinion you should hold off till Saturday.
 
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JDA70 said:
I understand you have nothing to do.

The thing is you don't want to look like
a needy clingy guy or what ever and call
the new one to come over just because your not
doing anything.

In my opinion you should hold off till Saturday.

Interesting.. and I agree. BUT

Need to take advantage while I can. Who knows, Saturday she could change her mind... Who knows with women. She has made it clear she wants the d!ck now.

Let's see what tomorrow holds. Usually she emails me. Then I can follow up with the invite to come over.

If she doesnt contact me first, I wont invite her. What do ya think?
 

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Well if she calls or whatever go with it.
If not then wait till Saturday.

That's what I'd do.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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JDA70 said:
Well if she calls or whatever go with it.
If not then wait till Saturday.

That's what I'd do.

she just called as I was reading this and wanted me to go to her place but i told her to come to my place and she's going to call later and probably come over.

looks like someones getting some tonight!
 
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