How to get respect from my football players

[rkc09]

Okay so I decided since it's my senior year to play football for many reasons. But getting along with the teamates was a new challenge. I'm in a situation and I need some of you to help a brother out.

Okay so back in middle school ppl used to call me Yoshi. They said I had big eyes like the dinosaur from Mario Bros. I was younger back then and I never defended myself. But now the past is coming back to haunt me but I won't let it destory the momentum I've build.


So basically everyone retired the whole Yoshi thing in High School. One guy never stopped calling me that but he when to a different school but he's back now so you know what that means....... And there's this other guy who decided to still called me yoshi but eventually stopped. He found out that I had alot of friends and so he started to respect me. So he goes about 2 months without calling me Yoshi. Then he decides to bring it back during football practice. But the thing is he only called me that behind my back or he'll whisper it someone's ear and laugh.


So then me and this star player on the team started going at it playfully. He gave me a bottle of water and the lid was half off so then water felt on my shorts. Then I soon get him back. We were walking and I squritted him with water. He starts whinning saying "come on I didn't even get u that wet" Basically he can dish it out but he can't take it. He goes "okay you've done started something now" Then started he starts calling me Yoshi. It didn't bother me so I let it go and laugh at it.

But then the whole team started referening to me as "Yoshi" instead of my real name. It then started to get annoying. I just laughed it out as if it didn't bother me but it's starting to piss me off now because I feel that they don't respect me. I don't care if you like me BUT YOU WILL RESPECT ME. I hate being disrespect more than anything else. I rather have the whole team hate me than to not respect me.

I feel that if this continues it will lead to me being seen as the joke of the team or the guy who everyone jokes on because it they don't take me seriously.

So I asked you guys as a friend...how should I handle this?

 

[Rhoto]

Why did you wait till your last year in high school to play football? Who are you trying to impress? People like you piss me off. I played from the ages of 8-17, and none of that flag football crap, the real deal. I hated the chumps who joined the team mid season, after summer double days or when the team started winning.

Why are you expecting respect? You've entered into a brotherhood. I'm betting a lot of these guys have been playing ball since 12-13 years old, they probably all know each other and are friends outside of the game.

These guys have sacrificed, bled, sweat and worked their asses off in order to become a cohesive unit. They've gone to battle together be it punch through the line and gain the 5+ yards or sacrifice their body to stop the ball from crossing the line. They've gone to war together, you haven't. You expect them to accept you with open arms? Wake up, it's not gonna happen any time soon.

My recommendation - Shut up. Work harder than any one else. Don't complain, whine or even say anything. If you don't understand the play or your job, ask some one. Don't be a pvssy, take the hit, make the play and don't stop working. You run those sprints for a reason, never accept being anything but first. They will respect you if you do that, I promise you.

And you're going to be referred to as Yoshi now, so man up, and get used to it. If you get better they might stop.

 

[HandyAndy]

Dude....chill out.

My football team gave me the nickname Twinkie and called me that every day during practice, but not during school. So relax, Yoshi is a pretty cool nick, I wish ppl would call me yoshi...

 

[DarkShade]

Eat him and **** him out as an egg, and then throw him at a Shyguy

 

[rkc09]

Why did you wait till your last year in high school to play football? Who are you trying to impress? People like you piss me off. I played from the ages of 8-17, and none of that flag football crap, the real deal. I hated the chumps who joined the team mid season, after summer double days or when the team started winning.

Why are you expecting respect? You've entered into a brotherhood. I'm betting a lot of these guys have been playing ball since 12-13 years old, they probably all know each other and are friends outside of the game.

These guys have sacrificed, bled, sweat and worked their asses off in order to become a cohesive unit. They've gone to battle together be it punch through the line and gain the 5+ yards or sacrifice their body to stop the ball from crossing the line. They've gone to war together, you haven't. You expect them to accept you with open arms? Wake up, it's not gonna happen any time soon.

My recommendation - Shut up. Work harder than any one else. Don't complain, whine or even say anything. If you don't understand the play or your job, ask some one. Don't be a pvssy, take the hit, make the play and don't stop working. You run those sprints for a reason, never accept being anything but first. They will respect you if you do that, I promise you.

And you're going to be referred to as Yoshi now, so man up, and get used to it. If you get better they might stop.

Thanks for the words of advice but what makes me a bad guy for joining the team? First of all don't ever mis-judge me like. Who do you thing you are? And I'm sorry that I pissed you off for joining the football team for because you know, I wanted to be apart of an actual team and I wanted help our team out seeing that our team has had a losing season for 3 years and since all of my friends on the team asked me to come out and play. So don't sit there and talk down to me like I'm some peace of trash trying for being apart of a legacy.

I ran the same sprints, bled the same blood, felt the same pain, lifted the same weights, got yelled at by coaches, got rainned on and have done the exact same workouts as these guys and I deserved to be on this team because I done that exact same work-outs as these guys and sat in the exact same sun as these guys for those 2 months. I wanted the chance to be apart of something great. And I I'm not trying to impress ANYONE so lets get that straight. So don't ever judge me like I'm a some bad guy, YOU DON'T KNOW ME! and never will. And you know what, ppl like you really piss me off because you actually was talking to me like you've known me my whole life. You haven't walked one day in my shoes and never will and until you have and been though everything that i've been through I suggest that you shut up talking to me like that. And another thing......thanks!. I've realize something...and...i wanna thank you! But lets get one thing straight my name is not YOshi and I'm not gonna answer to that. I'll ask another good friend of mine. He'll help me out.

 

[SinJester]

That's the thing about football clubs, no one chooses their nicknames and no one likes their nicknames! The less you like it the more likely it is to stick I had a nickname I didn't like at my old football club, big deal so did everyone. Then I moved clubs and I have a nickname I like now. Hah but that's not the reason I moved.

Here's something I learnt the HARD WAY. You can NEVER ever get respect by looking for it! As soon as you lose the need to have respect you might actually get some. Trust me, I've gone through all this sh!t before man. Getting worked up about anything make people lose respect for you. I don't know you I know, and I don't know what you are like in these situations. Just let it slide. Yoshi is a pretty cool nickname, you just don't like it because you were emotionally invested in it in the past.

Best of luck bro!

 

[rkc09]

Thanks SinJester. Your always a good help.

 

[Rhoto]

So don't sit there and talk down to me like I'm some peace of trash trying for being apart of a legacy.

I wasn't talking down to you. In fact I don't see anything I said that was offensive. Maybe a little jarring, but not offensive. Don't behave like a woman....

I ran the same sprints, bled the same blood, felt the same pain, lifted the same weights, got yelled at by coaches, got rainned on and have done the exact same workouts as these guys and I deserved to be on this team because I done that exact same work-outs as these guys and sat in the exact same sun as these guys for those 2 months.

Unless I misread it, you are on the team. You just don't enjoy the reverence you feel entitled to. Kind of a sick desperation, don't ya think?

And I I'm not trying to impress ANYONE so lets get that straight.

Ok.

So don't ever judge me like I'm a some bad guy, YOU DON'T KNOW ME! and never will.

No one here does. If thats how you feel, perhaps you shouldn't post your problems with the same sex on a board about gaming and laying chicks...

And you know what, ppl like you really piss me off because you actually was talking to me like you've known me my whole life.

Two things to take from this statement - a) Stay in school and master the English language, b) I don't need to know you, nor your history. You asked a question about getting, not earning respect.

You haven't walked one day in my shoes and never will and until you have and been though everything that i've been through I suggest that you shut up talking to me like that.

Pray tell, what have you been through?

Kill that sense of entitlement and the whole "you don't know me," crap because it isn't going to fly.

Hope things work out for ya kiddo.

 

[rkc09]

They will.........

 

[rkc09]

Thanks for the little sercet. I'll defintely used it.

 

[Rhoto]

Haha, kids play nice. I was trying to help, if you're a puss, that's not my problem.

 

[rkc09]

Well too bad I'm not one. So theres not any problems to worry about.

 

[J Bay Bay]

Yoshii!? You wanna know what my nickname was lol, "Garbage" (imagine all the jokes) and not because I sucked it up on the court, I rebounded my a$$ off every game getting double-doubles and EARNING the nickname Garbage Man for taking the trash shots and scoring them. That was 6th grade and it never bothered me until it got old after September this year. Keep your head up man, I'm 6'7 280 and I'm around professional athletes everyday that tell me that I should play Football. So if people are telling you to play by all means play.

 

[chinwaggler]

best way to earn respect is to be good and treat everyone else the same way