How to get past small talk?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

RichardTheFrog

Banned

Jun 2, 2018

Over the past week or so, I've gone to strip clubs numerous times and bar hopped downtown once. I've had so many conversations with different girls that I can't even remember them all.

Topics ranging from our personal back stories, history, the time I lived homeless, doing a bunch of acid, flipping houses, starting businesses, my d1ck implant and plastic surgeries (one of the strippers actually asked me to show her before and after pictures of the plastic surgery), and a million other topics that I can't remember.

But I've done this many, many times. It goes nowhere except just having a conversation.

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.