"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to get over this girl part(V?)

irocknike23

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ok i know i made these threads before and yes its the same girl still....this time I really need to get over her and get her out of my life and will seriously listen to what you DJ's have to say and take it in and execute it...


Ok so this girl who used to text me, talk to me on fone all the time and always hung out with me. back then i never really licked her but over time started getting attached...

now its summer and before she was always telling me "cant wait for summer were gona hang out everyday and go everywhere" and stuff like that.

well over the past 3 months she started talking to me less and less and I got the impression she lost interest in me...so now its summer and i hardly hear from her at all which is fine because i slowly start to recover and be ok with it. then she hits me with a text but the weird thing is the conversation only lasts 4-5 texts and then she doesnt write back....

and she does this now about every 4-5 days and i just dont get it. if she dont want to talk to me thats fine but if thats the case why text me in the first place????

then i find out she has been hanging out with my best friend a lot which is fine because he has a girlfriend that he recently told me he was gona propose and plus i know my best friend he would never cheat on his GF...

so anyways what should i do? like i said i slowly recover and am ok with it when i dont hear from her but the second i see her text my mind creates a lot of lust which i cant control and when i dont hear back from her i go into a deep state of depression.

so how should i go about this? ignore her and all her texts and calls?

i would do this but she is in the same social circle as me so when we would see each other in real life with our friends it would be very ackward....

but whatever advice you guys give im seriously gona listen i need her out of my life ASAP because its messing things me up for me...

like for example i didnt go to practice yesterday and im a projected started this year for my school and i play for a D1 school and we got a very hard schedule ahead of us...

plase DJ's and others help me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mikeyb

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Try this: next time she sends you a text don't reply immediately. Wait for 24hrs or so then send a text briefly answering hers and inviting her to hang out somewhere. If she says no and doesn't offer an alternate date forget her, otherwise take it from there. And try not to text her again before the date - even if she texts you first keep it to a strict minimum!
 

mahoney

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this problem is so common i made it my signature

a text conversation of 4-5 texts is too long. theres an initial bit of spark in the texts and its nice for both of you but you dont know when to stop and you make it boring

look at the last text you sent, if it wasn't really good - then you shouldnt have sent it
 

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^^ solid advice.... if not move on.. Find another girl and take her off her pedastal
 

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you guys arent getting me i want her out..no more chances i dont know how to explain this but this sweet innocent girl is pure evil....


she messes up my life constantly



i want to just ingore her and cut off contact from her which works because i slowly start to recover when i dont hear from her...but the cut off contact thing is a problem when the few times a month i would see her in real life and it would be very ackward
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Johnnyventana

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either do what mikeyb says, or just simply don't respond next time if you honestly seriously for reals want her out of your life. boom, done.
 

irocknike23

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Johnnyventana said:
either do what mikeyb says, or just simply don't respond next time if you honestly seriously for reals want her out of your life. boom, done.
irocknike23 said:
i want to just ignore her and cut off contact from her which works because i slowly start to recover when i dont hear from her...but the cut off contact thing is a problem when the few times a month i would see her in real life and it would be very awkward
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