How to get over "something will go wrong" mindset?

[The LadyKiller]

I have recently come to realize one of my main sticking points with women. I've been at this for a while and while there have been some minor victories, it seems something always goes wrong and everything evaporates just like that. Sure, there are times where I wasn't smooth or things simply didn't work out, but then you have instances such as a fluke September blizzard ruining plans, a HB getting food poisoning after dinner right before we were going to get busy, a HB seeing her ex while we were on our 1st date and left to go with him, or a HB breaking up with me on Valentine's Day because "the holiday is overrated" (which it is, but to break up because of it)? Factor in the recent string of last-second flakes and other shenanigans and, no matter how confident I feel, I can't prevent myself from thinking something will inevitably go wrong. It almost always seems to. How do you get past this mental obstacle?

 

[Bwub60]

I am no DJ yet but trying my damndest to get there. Having said that I have felt like that before and i think you need to drop your expectations a few levels just to get some confidence and then gradually promote yourself back up to the majors. Thats what I did and it seems to be working.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Date down. I'm talking 2s and 3s if you must. Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is bat sh1t wackjob behavior, right? So change things up a bit. Use them to break past this mental obstacle. They'll be flattered that they're getting attention from someone with a considerably higher SMV, and you'll be actively working on removing this pessimistic mindset. Don't forget to bow out gracefully with each of these girls though ("I'm sorry, I don't see this going anywhere...")

 

[BrainDamage92]

This is why you should love women but never, ever, ever trust them for even one second.

It sounds contradictory but its true.

Also I think most of you are American here and the stuff your women do... I mean damn... I dont envy you. I mean women are bad all over the world but meeting and ex while on a date and going away with him? I mean dude... This is why you should ALWAYS DUMP FIRST. ALWAYS. DISRESPECT=DUMP. If everyone did that hoes would behave, but us men became pussies who live in disfunctionality for the sake of regular sex. **** that shi. I dumped every girl I had, including the last LTR where we lived as a family basically from day 1, for 2,5 years. Disrespect=so long *****. And this ho will remeber me as the ultimate badass for the rest of her life, realising what she missed by disrespecting the coolest dude around, who actually loved her with all his heart.

Deep down on the inside, women are ice cold baby, they also mostly fail when trying to develop a personality, and are nothing but looks and smoke and mirrors, they like to pretend theyre emotional, when in fact its us who care, its us who are altruistic, and them who are egoistic, even on a basic level, we give the ****, they recieve it, but ofc, stupid *****es project their own shortcomings on you. Always.

Keep women in check. Not by force, not by boundaries or whatever, they know damn well what they can and cant do, they are not retarded, nor little kids, and treating them as sych gives them immense undeserved power, so communicate that disrespect=beak up and you are ready to walk away at any moment. If she dont want to be kept in check - so long. *****.

 

[sharkbeat]

You just keep on dating until enough things go wrong that you stop giving sh!t about things going wrong.

 

[Meisterman]

Instead of trying to change and resist the mindset of "Something going wrong" embrace it. Embrace every awkward silence, every misspoken word, and every mishap that happens. You will find that once you learn to accept everything that comes, including the worst possible scenario, you will no longer have any fear. Then the funny part is once you adopt this mindset of accepting anything that happens no matter what it is, things seem to work out just right.