How to get over one-itus

[AF77]

I'm going to make this quick since I'm tired as fuck, but I've noticed myself slipping into one-itus for this girl (not the kind most here would go for) and I couldn't figure out a way to get over it before I ****ed it up.
Luckily I figured out a quick formula for me that luckily somewhat got me over her before I talked to her/sent her facebook messages/show interestest/AFC ****.

1 ) Jerkoff/Get Laid. Make sure it's not just your **** amplifying everything. As soon as you get off, think about if you still want her.

In my case, I did.

2 ) Find something about her that isn't perfect, that you don't like, or makes her not as awesome. For me, it was a picture on her myspace of her covering a boob with a hand with the caption "Damn you escaped boob" with a cute look on her face. This took away some of the innocense and good-girl **** I had built up in my head about her.

I realise this isn't anything revolutionary or new, but just reposting it may help someone/back it up/help me out later.

 

[REPEM]

Go to work/school

Go out with work/school friends afterwards

Go to Gym

Go to club/party/bookstore/anywhere and talk to more girls, get their contact info, chat.


Juggle.


Ive found myself with one-itis and its always been at bad times of my life when I'm not busy with other **** going on.

 

[Black Dog]

Ok I'm definately no DJ but I'll try n help u before the real help gets here...

Theres an article in the Hall of Fame that I read (bottom right corner) but its somewhere in the middle, so sorry theres to many articles for me to sort through for this one.

But basically the author had a dilemma, OneItus. He said theres 4 ways to deal with it: (no order; I forgot the order lol)

1) Rationalalization, telling yourself its fine etc...in most cases this DOESNT work

2)Repression, trying to shove this feeling deep and and just ignore it, also a lame way of dealing (with anything really) and just being unconfrontational, cuz this will bite in teh ass later

The other 2 I forget dude sorry aha..

But yea, this dude was talking to a girl for a while, and realized he idealized her....luckily he was smart enough to seek help rather than continue his futile ways. He stopped and took a lot at himself, and then her.

He saw that being with her made him really comfortable, and she always took time to listen to what he had to say. She took care of him in a way..and had a lot of patience for him. He realized that she was almost motherly towards him....and he remembered many times when he sought validation from her, just as someone would seek validation from their own mother...

soooooooooooo

Just try and wrench her down to our level, take her off that pedestal and realize shes a normal girl...theres probably 100s of her that you havent met yet. OneItus usually comes from a couple things....one of them being low self esteem or confidence.

But yea, try to pinpoint why you like her so much, and come to terms that shes just a normal person.

sorry if theh advice isnt that great
just my 2 cents