"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to get numbers from more willing women?

Deicide

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Hey, I'm having trouble getting the women I get numbers from to do things with me. It's a constant struggle. I just called 2 girls and one outright told me she didn't want to go out with me because she was too busy(This girl texted me "I'm so happy that you messaged! and said she was happy that I called). And another one said she might go out with me Friday night if she doesn't have too much work. Both of these girls are foreign Asian girls, so maybe that figures into it. It could be that I'm not being sexual or actively using kino when I talk with them, I'm not supplicating to them at all, and I am teasing them about things.

Typically when I get numbers from girls, I either find out they have boyfriends or they do this "I'm busy" line. It's frustrating, but I have to get past it.

How do I get numbers from more willing women?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Maximus Rex

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You're not building enough comfort with chicks before you number close. I suggest that you bounce the chick to another location before you number close. For example, you're hollerin at a chick. You've escalated kino, and you're in that female-to-male attraction stage, instead of getting number here, take her to Cold Stone Creamery, McDonald's, Subway, or take her for drinks. If she agrees to go with you to another location she trusts you and probably wants to see you again, here is when you number close and it will increase the likelihood that she'll will take your and want to hang out.
 

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Good advice from Max. Comfort is important.
Many girls agree to give their number because it's easier to 'reject' you by phone than face to face.

Also, what may have sound as something not too implicating at the time (when she gave it to you) and a 'why not' kind of thing, becomes more real tangible and they don't want to.

Always remember that you need to make them desire to see you again, BEFORE to #Close.
So, comfort is good (to leviate fear and awkwardness) but attraction is as much necessary.

Also, try to find something she might get interested in doing (an expo, the beach, a concert, a new place to go to...) and propose her to do it together. You'll dramatically increase the chances for her to agree speaking and meeting you again.

But if you wanna know the main reasons why women flake that much and what you can do about it, read this (scroll down, second article).

Alanswer / NO-LJBF.com
 
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