How to get my girl to spit/swallow?

[Married Buried]

When you are about to bust say "Swallow it!" and hold her head in place. There ya go.

 

[JoeMarron]

The best thing to do is command her to swallow it while she's in the act. If she won't do it, she's not that into you.

Agreed. I even remember reading a study saying that a woman is less disgusted with things the more she is turned on. This is an old ass thread but I personally can't relate to your situation OP. My girl swallows but I couldn't care less about BJ's so it wouldn't be an issue regardless.

 

[Married Buried]

Agreed. I even remember reading a study saying that a woman is less disgusted with things the more she is turned on. This is an old ass thread but I personally can't relate to your situation OP. My girl swallows but I couldn't care less about BJ's so it wouldn't be an issue regardless.

If she's not into you enough to swallow yet she still goes down on you means she's a damned wh0re and you should throw her out.

 

[speed dawg]

A very wise SoSuave poster told me this years ago when I was having the same problem:

Sounds like she has a bunch of hangups and likes making excuses. Bottom line is she isn't as into you as you think. My last LTR (5 years) she never went down on me and had all sorts of excuses. When we broke up I couldn't believe how many girls I met that LOVED to suck d!ck and swallow - and even would ask for it. Bottom line is, if she's not all over you all the time in every way she's not into you or is really hung up sexually.

Personally, I'll never date a girl that isn't into EVERYTHING sexual again. Way too many wild ones out there to waste time with a cold one.

I think you're giving her complete control of the frame by asking her for it and talking about it and letting her say no. If a girl told me she didn't suck d!ck I would leave so fast there would be a trail of smoke.

Stop debating with her about it and find a girl that fukks like a porno star :cheer:

Oh, you say that doesn't apply to you? Because she's sucking but not swallowing? Doesn't matter, the advice stays the same. You must up your frame of dominance.

I already sense that you're trying to butter us all up by talking about how many girls you can get, how great she is, how you want to cheat, etc. Sounds like the shoe is on the other foot to me. Just sayin'.

 

[Colossus]

This is an old thread but I agree. There is only ONE cure for a girl who wont suck d1ck/swallow/take a facial/etc:

GET A NEW GIRLFRIEND.

Life is too short to waste it on prude b!tches. Once you find a chick who LOVES cvm on her face and in her mouth and to have you gag her with your c0ck.....you'll never go back my friend.

 

[HoneyHitter]

This is an old thread but I agree. There is only ONE cure for a girl who wont suck d1ck/swallow/take a facial/etc:

GET A NEW GIRLFRIEND.

Life is too short to waste it on prude b!tches. Once you find a chick who LOVES cvm on her face and in her mouth and to have you gag her with your c0ck.....you'll never go back my friend.

Yeah man, this reminds of a chick that used to lick up my *** to the very last drop! Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and put those nights on repeat. I have yet to meet another chick that's even half as good as she was. She had some mileage though, and not completely sane either.

 

[Married Buried]

Yeah man, this reminds of a chick that used to lick up my *** to the very last drop! Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and put those nights on repeat. I have yet to meet another chick that's even half as good as she was. She had some mileage though, and not completely sane either.

You only want to keep her if you are the one who trained her how to do those things. If she came already trained she's useless for LTR.

 

[Night-hawk]

Haha this thread is great.

 

[da20valve]

I used to say to my girl I promise I wont go in your mouth, EVERYTIME she would start sucking and stop every 5 mins and go "are you close", I go I will tell you when, then I would hold off as long as I could (cross my toes, close my eyes), whatever I could to prolong it, put my hand on the back of her head gently and rub it for about 10 seconds , cram my **** down her throat and hold her head and let her have it, I would not let he up till she swallowed, can you believe she did this for nearly 3 years, how stupid can one be, its not all bad I did like her though, but I used to love doing this, especially when I was drunk. I think she must have licked it in the end, why else would you keep falling for it.

 

[Vulpine]

One thing I never understood was the chicks who, after taking a shot of man magic in the mouth, run around looking for somewhere to spit. They get up, run around doing the "icky dance" with a stupid "Mr. Yuk" look on their face, until they eventually find a receptacle to spit in.

Last time it happened, I bust out laughing like crazy. I thought it was hilarious!

Her: "WTF IS SO FUNNY!!!??":cuss:

After she finally spit, she started freaking out, of course. To which I responded by heckling her with logic:

Vulpine: "What is it with you 'spitters'? It's so stupid to me: I mean, you claim you are grossed out by spuzz, yet, instead of swallowing it down like a big goober and have it gone and over in a second or two, you chose to prolong it's stay in your mouth. It's like you are trying to savor it and swish it around like mouthwash for a good long while before you finally get rid of it. Either spitters are stupid, or, they are ashamed to say they absolutely love shots-in-the-mouth, and do the icky dance to try to show that they aren't 'slutty'."

Her: ... :nervous:... ... ... ... I never thought about it like that. You actually have a really good point.

Vulpine: "ACTUALLY" (mocking her tone), we could be seamlessly moving along to me reciprocating while I recover, but you totally kill the mood: getting up, running to the bathroom or kitchen or parking ramp or wherever, grumbling about 'thif if fo groff'... *makes 'd¡ck going limp' finger gesture* You don't see me jumping around like a monkey every time I get your spuzz in my mouth. Do You? No. You would be insulted-as-ƒuck."


I'll be damned if she didn't choke them down after that. I encouraged her by discreetly bringing a glass of water to bed with us before sex. The first time she saw it, she knew right away what was going on, and got to straight to work...

*Gulp*
*cringe, shudder*
*reaches for water glass*

Vulpine: "See? That wasn't so bad. Now watch... *goes downtown to reciprocate* ...we can move right along to... *cl¡t licking*"

I imagine from then on, based on consistently rewarding her good behavior, she began to associate "a load in her mouth" with "having amazing orgasms".

So, back to the OP on this, because it's a timeless topic:

When encountering this, simply explain, right there on the spot as it's happening, the logic.

Instead of leaving a big mess all over, it's much more effective/efficient to catch it instead of clean it up. Plus, studies have shown that women get an anti-depressant effect from ingesting or internalizing "man-magic". Regardless of the hole (mouth, vag, or ass), men's nut itself makes women feel good. It's a waste and a mood wrecker let it splatter or spit it, so she would better serve herself by keeping it: she should think of it as a gift.

I remember one gal who spit my load out on my belly. I stood up, grabbed a towl, and, as I cleaned my belly, hawked up a mega-goober and spit it on HER stomach.

Vulpine: "I could've just swallowed that, but, spitting on people is perfectly acceptable, I see."

Laid bare, women are much more open to criticism. Most women only talk about dix suxing with other women, anyway. How the heck do they know if they are doing it well? Which is better: a woman saying to another woman "men like when you this and that"? Or, to actually receive feedback on-the-spot?

Most dudes are too happy just getting a BJ to be critical of them. By giving feedback, you demonstrate that a BJ is just a BJ - you can get them, and better ones than what she's giving. It shows her she can either do better, or, you'll do (find) better, because you've had better.

 

[Vulpine]

This is an old thread but I agree. There is only ONE cure for a girl who wont suck d1ck/swallow/take a facial/etc:

GET A NEW GIRLFRIEND.

Life is too short to waste it on prude b!tches. Once you find a chick who LOVES cvm on her face and in her mouth and to have you gag her with your c0ck.....you'll never go back my friend.

Where I would tend to agree "GET A NEW GIRLFRIEND" is generally sound advice for most offenses, where I've highlighted in red is where I have to start a disagreement.

Let's use a car analogy to begin. Let's say you have a new bone-stock car. If it doesn't go fast or handle well enough, do you ditch it and find one that someone else hooked up? Of course, you soup-up the bone-stock car. Why? Because there is no telling how, once the other dude went through the effort, the other car was beat on and abused before it was eventually unloaded. Why was it unloaded? Likely, because it was beat on and ultimately used-up.

Dropping in an aftermarket air filter and minor tweaks that you do are easy. And, you have something to show for your efforts: a car you already like getting even better.

You are essentially advocating getting rid of the virgin to get a professional. Not necessarily, of course, but in essence. If everything else is good, all your boxes are checked off, but sex needs improvement, I say have fun teaching/learning/practicing to make it better - for both of you.
A strong male with teach and train with some patience if the subject is worth teaching. Effective communication is THE cornerstone of amazing sex. It builds trust and rapport, both of which are crucial for a woman to enjoy sex.

If you decide ultimately that it's not working out and next the chick, at least you did the next guy a favor. I would say "get a new girlfirend" should be your "plan b". I've had far too much experience getting uptight-in-bed women to relax and become absolute porn stars in the sack to tell anyone "find one who does". Women are all potential porn stars, they just don't know how to be one until they are shown, and, more importantly, assured that their enjoyment of sex (with you) does not make them a slut. Once they drop that ASD and trust you, they'll realize that they are free to enact all the fantasies they've previously denied themselves.

ASD is a tough nut to crack. Most bedroom resistance is overcome with simple logic at appropriate times.

The part where I highlighted red, the "Once you find..." part, is far easier typed than done. How long before "you find"? How does that compare to the "how long before this one XYZ's" option? When I point out the effort investment in finding another versus the effort of teaching the woman in already in your bed, my point is obvious.

I do agree, it's very easy to ignore where a woman learned to do what she is doing when she is doing it so well to YOU. But, it's not nearly as rewarding as a custom tailored sex partner. Perhaps it's a caveman conquering thing. But, you just can't be sure of what baggage will come along with the new, proficient, chick. A bird in hand, as they say.