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How to get her ?

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How the get a girl that i love but her boyfriend is my +/- best friend ...

The situation was like that:

In 2004 they have been in love for a few weeks, then that dude broke up for no reason ... then i was hanging out with her ... i was trying to get her but i was a BIG ****IN WUSS WUSS OF ALL ... even some little ugly ****er could touch her ...


Well, wot should i do ? The girl is hot(she's 15 i think (im 15 to) ?!)

That dude is hella strong so he can punch me if i steal her ... but i dont see any love to her from his side so maybe he wont ...
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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go find another girl man, don't mess with your best friend's girl.
 

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Originally posted by TuPLaD
How the get a girl that i love but her boyfriend is my +/- best friend ...

The situation was like that:

In 2004 they have been in love for a few weeks, then that dude broke up for no reason ... then i was hanging out with her ... i was trying to get her but i was a BIG ****IN WUSS WUSS OF ALL ... even some little ugly ****er could touch her ...


Well, wot should i do ? The girl is hot(she's 15 i think (im 15 to) ?!)

That dude is hella strong so he can punch me if i steal her ... but i dont see any love to her from his side so maybe he wont ...
TuPLaD,

How long have you known this girl? If it's not that long, how can you love her? There's a big difference between fancying someone and loving them. I think you probably just fancy her cos she's hot.

What I don't get is, if your friend broke it off for no reason then how could you be "stealing her"? He's not with her anymore is he?

Anyway, if she is still dating this guy, my advice is to stay away from this one. It's her choice to do what she likes. If you interfere, you will probably lose her as a friend and even your +/- best friend and get a black eye as well! Too much hassel to take on for one hot chick. There are lots of hot chicks out there for you!

If they're not dating, and you really really want her, then stop being a wuss, hang out some more with her, ask her if she wants to join you in doing something that evening. If she says yes, then take her out, show her a good time and you'll know whether she likes you like that. If she does, then go for the kiss dude, straight up, cos she probably wants you to by then, stop being a wuss anymore - be the man! BUT ONLY IF THEY'RE NOT DATING ANYMORE! Still, you might end up losing your +/- best friend if he's not happy with it and he might still give you a black eye. If my best friend went out with my ex, I'd punch him too! Depends on how good a friend he is to you and whether you care what he thinks.

It's a tough one though, must admit. But personally, I wouldn't go for any of my friends' ex-girlfriends. I don't like to go for "sloppy seconds" and besides, I'd know the history she's had and it would make me compare too much and think about things too much and I couldn't take her out with me if I was hanging out with THAT friend. It's gets too complex - see what I mean?


Stringz
 

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This is the wrong forum for your post. The tips forum is for the author of the post to give a tip, not ask for help.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Re: Re: How to get her ?

Originally posted by Stringz
TuPLaD,

How long have you known this girl? If it's not that long, how can you love her? There's a big difference between fancying someone and loving them. I think you probably just fancy her cos she's hot.

What I don't get is, if your friend broke it off for no reason then how could you be "stealing her"? He's not with her anymore is he?

Anyway, if she is still dating this guy, my advice is to stay away from this one. It's her choice to do what she likes. If you interfere, you will probably lose her as a friend and even your +/- best friend and get a black eye as well! Too much hassel to take on for one hot chick. There are lots of hot chicks out there for you!

If they're not dating, and you really really want her, then stop being a wuss, hang out some more with her, ask her if she wants to join you in doing something that evening. If she says yes, then take her out, show her a good time and you'll know whether she likes you like that. If she does, then go for the kiss dude, straight up, cos she probably wants you to by then, stop being a wuss anymore - be the man! BUT ONLY IF THEY'RE NOT DATING ANYMORE! Still, you might end up losing your +/- best friend if he's not happy with it and he might still give you a black eye. If my best friend went out with my ex, I'd punch him too! Depends on how good a friend he is to you and whether you care what he thinks.

It's a tough one though, must admit. But personally, I wouldn't go for any of my friends' ex-girlfriends. I don't like to go for "sloppy seconds" and besides, I'd know the history she's had and it would make me compare too much and think about things too much and I couldn't take her out with me if I was hanging out with THAT friend. It's gets too complex - see what I mean?


Stringz
what the hell is with this black eye bull****, why do u think everyone who gets punched will get a black eye, have u been bullied as a child?
 

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Honostly if you care what the boyfriend thinks than ask him. Easy as that. Talk to him and see how he feels about her and if he dosn't care about her ask if he would mind if you dated her. If he does than respect that and if you are going to date her than be ready for the possibility of this guy getting angry. You can't live your life in fear though if there is somthing between you two than go for it just lose the whole " I am in love with her" thing. Play it cool and read more from this sight.
 

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Re: Re: Re: How to get her ?

Originally posted by BLUEox117
what the hell is with this black eye bull****, why do u think everyone who gets punched will get a black eye, have u been bullied as a child?
BLUEox117, I was using "black eye" as a figure of speech for being punched - so NOT meant to be taken literally! Of course I don't think that EVERYONE who gets punched will get a black eye. Do I say or imply that anywhere? How did you manage to put that interpretation on what I said? Some people do bruise easier than others, but not EVERYONE ALWAYS gets a black eye from a smack in the face! And what logic were you using to conclude that blackeyes = being bullied as a child? Pfft!

Besides, the "black eye" has got NOTHING to do with the main concept of the discussion, so why are you focusing on that? You miss the point.
 

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Hummm, well, i know her for +/- 1.5 year ...


Yea well, black eye ... in the big vacation i was talking to that dude on msn, i was always talkin bout that girl, and i wanted to make him like, feel jelous ...

but he always told me: well, go for her u punk(we call each other that way), then u'll marry her, get kids, & live long & happy ^^

but then, i come back to school after the vacation - & what do i see ? i see those both together ...

but when i ask him if he got feelings for her - he says he is playing her


ah wel, i believe i'll just gotta go for an other one :D
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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