How to get her to come back to my house without seeming needy

[ryannath]

Ok, I'm gonna make this short and sweet. My cousin came over to my house on Monday to play some pool, ping pong and stuff like that, and he brought a girl he is interested in and he brought another girl with him, she was 18. She is kind of the shy type and really wouldn't talk to me unless I talked to her, and she's the type that seems shy and innocent. Also, she is the type to let guys use her and she goes after guys that need some direction in life, and she doesn't go after guys that seem to be "perfect" because she thinks they don't need her. Those are her words.

Anyway, I thought she was cute, not hot, but cute and innocent, and I seem to be attracted to those type of girls and not the slutty ones, they turn me off. We seemed to have some attraction to each other because she even gave me a hug, and she initiated it. She asked me if I wanted a hug, so she did it.

As she was about to leave, I was thinking about asking for her number, but I didn't. I regret it now, but oh well. As she got in her car, I turned and looked at her and she was staring right at me, with that attraction look that you can tell they are attracted to you when you see the look in their eye. So, I went in my house, and she left.

I found her on myspace a couple days later, added her and sent her message saying I had fun, and I asked her if she had fun. She said "yes, I did ryan thanks lol..I am glad you were on my pool team."

I am gonna try to get her to come back and play some more pool with me sometime soon, and try to get her in my room to watch a movie with me and see how things goes, and try to progress to some sex, but I'm not sure how to go about it. I guess I will have to do it over myspace since I didn't ask for her number in person, but I'm not sure how to do that without seeming needy. I thought about saying, "you are kinda good at pool, but not quite as good as me...you need some practice for sure...you should come back over sometime to play more pool with me", and she what she says.

Is this a good idea? Any suggestions?

 

[suikeisuru]

I just asked my last ex g/f if she wanted to go back to my place after our date (was the third) and she said yea. Sometimes being direct works wonders.

 

[ryannath]

Yeah, direct does work. I agree with you on that. Except, I bet yours was in person. Mine will be on myspace, and it's not really a question, it's a suggestion to see what she says about it. If she's interested at all, she should respond to that. If not, she obviously is not. The thing is, I'm not sure if she even knows that I like her in "that" way romanticly. I did use some kino on her though on her back, and she used some on me with the hug.

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

I found her on myspace a couple days later, added her and sent her message saying I had fun, and I asked her if she had fun. She said "yes, I did ryan thanks lol..I am glad you were on my pool team."

Well you need not be afraid about appearing needy after this stalker move.
Cheers.

ps:Maybe i misjudged your post but did you actually search for her or she gave you her myspace?If the former look above,if the latter just go for it and forget my post

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

Who cares. Just go for it homie. Girls don't expect every guy to have balls of steel anyways. But right now your about to throw yourself into the friend zone if you don't make a move soon.

 

[Paintballguy]

You cant drive over the water without building a bridge first. Try and get a number or screen name from her off myspace. Then, just talk to her alittle bit and throw some C&F around. After that, just setup another date for her to come over again to play pool or whatever. While she is at your house, start some small kino (bump into her, push her gently) to gauge her reaction.

Just have to feel out the situation and don't be afraid to be direct.

 

[ryannath]

Thanks for the responses everyone. But, no I didn't stalk her into finding her myspace. She showed me her myspace when she was at my house. She got on there.

 

[ryannath]

I think I have decided what my next move is gonna be. I think I'm just gonna flat out ask her for her cell phone number. What a better way to judge interest level than to ask for a number. If she is interested the tiniest bit, she should give the number. I'm gonna say, "I forgot to get your cell number when you were here, but I'd like to talk to you again. Let me get your cell number and I'll give you a call so we can play some more pool sometime."

Should I leave the part out about playing more pool again, or should I leave that in there, so she knows that I have getting together again in mind?


Opinions...

 

[Paintballguy]

I think I have decided what my next move is gonna be. I think I'm just gonna flat out ask her for her cell phone number. What a better way to judge interest level than to ask for a number. If she is interested the tiniest bit, she should give the number. I'm gonna say, "I forgot to get your cell number when you were here, but I'd like to talk to you again. Let me get your cell number and I'll give you a call so we can play some more pool sometime."

Should I leave the part out about playing more pool again, or should I leave that in there, so she knows that I have getting together again in mind?


Opinions...

Just be like "What is your number?". No need to explain yourself. Then, just ask her to come hangout and play pool one night.

 

[Scought]

Get the number and get off the internet.

Once you have the number, treat it like you any other number. No more computer pimping at that point.

 

[Nighthawk]

She's not shy, she likes bad-boys, and you're not one.

Doesn't mean you can't get her, just a heads up.

 

[Kev07]

Just be like "What is your number?". No need to explain yourself. Then, just ask her to come hangout and play pool one night.

listen to this guy

 

[DR Chillz]

Your think about this way to much take action.

 

[mrRuckus]

seems shy and innocent.

Don't put those two things together. They don't go together at all.