How to get her invest more?

[mrgoodstuff]

It appears that she likes to use him for booty calls, at her whim, when she's horny, and that's it. To me, he seems to be chasing the dream of someday being upgraded, to the boyfriend that she loves, adores and values. That's actually happening for him is as likely as woman who is also used strictly for booty calls, someday becoming the man's gf/wife.

The only hope the woman would have in that scenario is to stop being a booty call, live her life and force him to operate out of a window of respect and value.

 

[searching solace]

Thanks for all these answers. Actually it's really messed up story. At the beginning we were both each other rebounds. And she got back together with her ex some time ago. But we still hooked up and had sex. Their relationship just sucks. They fight all the time, her bf cheated her and so on. Her bf behaves quite bad with her.
She lost her feelings for me again like i expected. Also blocked her bf from everywhere. She is at the moment again in that phase while she doesn't care about anything, so it's pointless to stop texting, she just doesn't care. I've noticed that this phase happens when her life gets harder.
I try with other women too and i'm not obsessed. I just like sex with her and actually don't care so much about her. I don't want to walk away if i get so good sex. I just try to not fall into her.
Couple of times when she lost her interest, i just somehow got her to meet me and after sex she was again really into me. So perhaps i try to use this strategy again?
I know i ****** up with her but perhaps i could try and be very supportive and caring to her? It's not a bad idea if i don't care so much? May be it will work and then switch to alpha again? Once she had a friend who was very needy and i think she liked that.

The fact that she still has sex with you whilst she is/was still with her boyfriend, should tell you enough about her character.

Is her boyfriend still around and in the same city? Could explain why she often loses interest.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The fact that she still has sex with you whilst she is/was still with her boyfriend, should tell you enough about her character.

Is her boyfriend still around and in the same city? Could explain why she often loses interest.

She likes that system. I knew a female who would have a boyfriend, he would get all into her, gain some weight and she would "kill" him, so he'd be focus on her and she'd be allowing others in a higher regard than him. She did it on a few men. I don't put my nose down at the men, though they should've known better. But I take it as part of her character. If you get too close, she will mess you up.

 

[Fugitive]

They fight all the time, her bf cheated her and so on. Her bf behaves quite bad with her.

So her BF cheats and so what do you think she wants to do for revenge? She f*cks you because it makes her feel better about herself that she is desirable and it doesn't matter that he's cheating because she can do the same back to him.

She's using you. If you can accept that and use her back just for sex then that's cool but if you catch feelings like you are now then it could destroy you and in that case you need to cut her off as it's only a matter of time until she does that to you.