"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

How to get girls to travel long distances to you

animal crackers

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 11, 2003
Messages
346
Reaction score
2
Age
41
Location
Project Chicago
I keep meeting these girls at clubs and they all live a million miles away. I went out with a couple of them and i'm just way too lazy to drive an hour to meet some chick. So I need to structure good ways for girls to travel far to visit me.

This most recent girl is just so damn gorgeous otherwise I would just say forget it, but what we have been doing is just meeting at this one club on the weekend. She lives almost an hour and a half away, and I need to get her out here so we can be a little more private. It's just that all the day2's I usually do aren't really super exciting. I ask girls to play pool or smoke hookah, stuff like that. I guess I'm kinda looking for a cool reason for her to come visit.



animal crackers
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Life-Trainee

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 29, 2004
Messages
795
Reaction score
0
Location
Boston, MA
My ex-gf traveled an hour to meet me ever since the 1st date, but she was very into me, and we met through friends.

I'd say try setting up something half-way for the first date? You'd have to create a LOT of compliance and value to get them travel to you I'd imagine.
 

JC9

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 25, 2006
Messages
144
Reaction score
1
I don't think the distance is too big of an issue. I've dated a few women who lived 45 or so miles from me and they would always drive up to me for whatever we were doing.

That being said, playing pool or smoking the hookah sound like boring activities. They make a decent secondary activity, but hit up the zoo or local fair/amusement park with your girl.

I try and make my dates things that neither my date or I would do normally. That way I have fun and get a new experience as does she, and better yet it is a shared experience.
 
Top