"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to get girls to STFU about their exes...

jdawgmcb

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alright, im gaming a few girls right now...except the only problem is that they wont STFU about their god damn exes...and it's hindering my game as it brings up those emotional moments.

Bla bla bla, still have feelings for them, bla bla bla.

What's the best manuver to get rid of this remorse?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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simply respond...oh, i see. well i have to get going.

dont ****ing listen to that ****. it is disrespectful.

these girls arent that into you dude. they are talking about the ex cause they are thinking about him. as soon as the ex comes around again you are yesterdays news.
 

jdawgmcb

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drmeathead said:
simply respond...oh, i see. well i have to get going.

dont ****ing listen to that ****. it is disrespectful.

these girls arent that into you dude. they are talking about the ex cause they are thinking about him. as soon as the ex comes around again you are yesterdays news.
So should i be simply blunt and say "Get over it, there are worse problems." or just completely ditch them?
 

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I'd do neither. Letting them see that it bothers you is bad. You have to not care, or make them think you don't. Tell them that the ex seems like a really nice guy, and that they should get back together. Then she'll be the one to insult him - you don't have to.

If a girl is on my d!ck right now, that is all that matters. She can love whoever the hell she wants, go back to an ex tomorrow, whatever. As long as I am getting sex right now, I could not care less.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Michele said:

You took the time to actually read his post, the very least you could do is stfu yourself or show alittle respect and add something to the thread.


Anyhow i would personally ignore it unless she was talking about her ex all the time in which case i'd tell her to stfu or i'd just ditch her.


Demonic
 

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Ask her what she's learned and changed from the old relationship because you'd rather not be the next guy she's complaining about in the future.
 

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Say, "suck my big brown (white/black/purple) dyck, depending what color it is... and shut the **** up"
 

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There is reason they mention their x's. Either its jeolusy fuel to lower your self esteem. Or beatch about them and use you as an emotional tampoon.

Which both you shouldn't let give a **** about or you'll up as a tool.

Simply don't respond/react to it and they'll eventauly give up talking about them.
 

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Either ignore it or tell her about the girls you are gonna bang/take out this weekend. If you choose the latter, it's like dangling a mouse in front of a cat, just use moderation and act aloof with a few properly placed grins here and there. You don't wanna be bothered by it, but pulling something like that on her will show her ur not an emotional tampon. It can show ambition towards the future for you and that you yourself aren't the type to dwell on the past.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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correct

Bible_Belt said:
I'd do neither. Letting them see that it bothers you is bad. Tell them that the ex seems like a really nice guy, and that they should get back together. Then she'll be the one to insult him - you don't have to.
 

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punch the b!tch in the mouth
 

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haha^^ or if you want her jaw 2 drop w/o touching her, tell her: "I can fvck you better than he can, if you're not satisfied I'll refund your dignity."
 

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jdawgmcb said:
alright, im gaming a few girls right now...except the only problem is that they wont STFU about their god damn exes...and it's hindering my game as it brings up those emotional moments.

Bla bla bla, still have feelings for them, bla bla bla.

What's the best manuver to get rid of this remorse?
I don't put up with it at all, I just get it out there. I let them know I don't like hearing them whinge and that I'm not the type of guy that she should be telling these things to.

It may seem like I'm coming out a little harsh, but I haven't had a single negative response as of yet. It depends on how you say it, and whether what you've said is congruent with the way you act.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Say somethin sarcastic like "hey just to remind you I'm interested in you and not your ex's k thanks". She'll get the hint.
 

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demonic said:
You took the time to actually read his post, the very least you could do is stfu yourself or show alittle respect and add something to the thread.

Demonic
you're an idiot. i told him to yawn. dipsh1t. now apologize.

who types out their expressions anyways...?

*sigh*, that's so gay, *shrugs*. *yawns*, i'm going to go to bed, i'm tired... *logs off sosuave* and *goes to bed*.
 

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Lacey: He was just so forgiving. You know, I mean, you could treat him badly and he'd say I'm sorry.
Brent: Heartless bastard.
Lacey: You think there's something wrong with me.
Brent: No. Other than that you'll never be happy, or satisfied. Probably die alone, house full of cats.
Corner Gas
 

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Michele said:
you're an idiot. i told him to yawn. dipsh1t. now apologize.

who types out their expressions anyways...?

*sigh*, that's so gay, *shrugs*. *yawns*, i'm going to go to bed, i'm tired... *logs off sosuave* and *goes to bed*.
Try to make things you write down alittle clearer in future.

LIKE

"Just "yawn" or some **** and she'll get the hint"

See that clears up confusion does'nt it?.

thankyou

Demonic
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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