"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah how do i get my girlfriend to start calling me more? I notice somtimes like for a few days she may call me and initiate convo all the time. Then there are other times..for example this week where she doesn't initiation convo online or call me. Like i expect her to call me today just to see whatsup for the day or night and she doesnt. I don't want to gie in and call her or whatever. If she calls me alot i'll call her somtimes, but i REALLY don't want to be the one always calling her.

If i say somtin to her..would that be too bad/desperate?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Funny how the same things just always apply to relationships, which is why I dont understand why people here try to score with a 'particular' girl without having their fundamentals down.

ANYWAY, her interest level isn't high enough. The answer to this question is the sum of all the information in the community. Get her interest level up and she'll call you more. Get her interest level up by following all of the advice on this website and elsewhere.

One particular thing you can try is to simply stop calling her. She'll call. Although she might think something is wrong since she's your GF. You'll have to just be like "actually I was just busy. You could've called earlier."

Heh, if you asked this question to a "relationship counsellor" I can't imagine what they'd say! Some crazy AFC "tell her you would like her to call more often" thing... oh my...
 
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Yep

Nice post AT. I wish there were some sort of documented studies done that I could point to and say, "XYZ results in 20% more calls at XYZ point in relationship with a score of XYZ experience/interest level". Unfortunately, that may never happen. It would be interesting to test such a system and try replicating the results.

In the interim of say the next 200-500 years, I think ATs post nicely sums that up. You need EVERYTHING that's available to you to be your very best.
 
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Originally posted by shark
Yeah how do i get my girlfriend to start calling me more? I notice somtimes like for a few days she may call me and initiate convo all the time. Then there are other times..for example this week where she doesn't initiation convo online or call me. Like i expect her to call me today just to see whatsup for the day or night and she doesnt. I don't want to gie in and call her or whatever. If she calls me alot i'll call her somtimes, but i REALLY don't want to be the one always calling her.

If i say somtin to her..would that be too bad/desperate?
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simple ... stop calling her so much ; in fact , do a shyt test on her and not call her for one whole day or 2 and c if she calls - the longer it takes her to call you , the lower her IL ....
 
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