How to get girl to call you more..

[shark]

Yeah how do i get my girlfriend to start calling me more? I notice somtimes like for a few days she may call me and initiate convo all the time. Then there are other times..for example this week where she doesn't initiation convo online or call me. Like i expect her to call me today just to see whatsup for the day or night and she doesnt. I don't want to gie in and call her or whatever. If she calls me alot i'll call her somtimes, but i REALLY don't want to be the one always calling her.

If i say somtin to her..would that be too bad/desperate?

 

[Alphathree]

Funny how the same things just always apply to relationships, which is why I dont understand why people here try to score with a 'particular' girl without having their fundamentals down.

ANYWAY, her interest level isn't high enough. The answer to this question is the sum of all the information in the community. Get her interest level up and she'll call you more. Get her interest level up by following all of the advice on this website and elsewhere.

One particular thing you can try is to simply stop calling her. She'll call. Although she might think something is wrong since she's your GF. You'll have to just be like "actually I was just busy. You could've called earlier."

Heh, if you asked this question to a "relationship counsellor" I can't imagine what they'd say! Some crazy AFC "tell her you would like her to call more often" thing... oh my...

 

[everywomanshero]

Yep

Nice post AT. I wish there were some sort of documented studies done that I could point to and say, "XYZ results in 20% more calls at XYZ point in relationship with a score of XYZ experience/interest level". Unfortunately, that may never happen. It would be interesting to test such a system and try replicating the results.

In the interim of say the next 200-500 years, I think ATs post nicely sums that up. You need EVERYTHING that's available to you to be your very best.

 

[TxCowboy]

Originally posted by shark
Yeah how do i get my girlfriend to start calling me more? I notice somtimes like for a few days she may call me and initiate convo all the time. Then there are other times..for example this week where she doesn't initiation convo online or call me. Like i expect her to call me today just to see whatsup for the day or night and she doesnt. I don't want to gie in and call her or whatever. If she calls me alot i'll call her somtimes, but i REALLY don't want to be the one always calling her.

If i say somtin to her..would that be too bad/desperate?

simple ... stop calling her so much ; in fact , do a shyt test on her and not call her for one whole day or 2 and c if she calls - the longer it takes her to call you , the lower her IL ....