How to get girl im seeing be my girlfriend?

[thelonewolflegend]

never usually had this prob but I know its kinda because I was an open book to her and was saying a lot bout my life and problems having her as shoulder to lean on earlier this yr because of my problems. I guess to say she may have more balls in the court per say how could I get her to want me besides not contacting her much because that doesn't make a difference. What do I need to do when we are hanging out or what to say or what should we do etc...? She is out of town till end of week she doesn't want to see me till following week she said so how could I get her to want me more then just have me as friend to hangout with and ****?

 

[SgtSplacker]

You have to put yourself in her shoes. She wants a strong man to follow and lead her to success and good times. You have to be this man.

Think of it like as if you were interviewing a man to be your father. What qualities would you look for if you had your choice?

 

[thelonewolflegend]

well I tell her I was hanging out with ex and she was asking if I ever went back to her. Do I tell her I am dating other women? I understand Sgt. I guess what qualities or things you suggest or think are best to be?

 

[SgtSplacker]

well I tell her I was hanging out with ex and she was asking if I ever went back to her. Do I tell her I am dating other women? I understand Sgt. I guess what qualities or things you suggest or think are best to be?

Telling women about your problems is never a good thing. I know she is your intimate significant other and theoretically a relationship is all about opening up to each other. Those are women's ideals. You have to understand she is constantly judging you on whether you will be a good provider and husband/man. So any signs of weakness will be noted. When a woman says he's my boyfriend, it means that she has chosen to follow you.

I read somewhere that a good celebrity never talks about their own thoughts and ideas when they are negative. You kinda have to maintain this neutral front so nobody has anything to hold against you. Always being positive and supportive. Always your best foot forward. Never say anything anyone can disagree with. Basically you are speaking lots of fluff that doesn't really mean anything. You should only relay a general message of positivity and support. When you get used to this, you will find plenty of room to be and express yourself.

Way I see it as a man I like to manage the perceptions of everyone around me. I control what people think when they speak to me. I don't really like to open up to anyone because in the end what they walk away with will be a negative opinion of me. People just tend to think negatively. I don't know why, they just do. You have to control this and regulate how you express yourself not only to your girl but to everyone around you.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

I understand well I was really depressed and messed up from past n all and felt like she was really great she listened to me a lot and talked to me and I really needed it and it was great. I guess what is your best advice turning it around now since I already told weaknesses n stuff.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Just stop being that way dude. Eventually she will start to fit you into her ideal man image if you don't mess it up by being too emotional.

Or maybe go out and catch that 1500 pound great white they say is in the Gulf of Mexico right now.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

ok thanks ill do that. how could I seem more fun or interesting to her so she would want me and want to talk to me cuz she rarely hits me up unless we just get together?

 

[thunder_god]

You don't, she has to be the one to bring it up. Guys who try to force these things usually end up getting rejected. Just sit back and relax and have fun. In due time, she will bring up if she wants to be exclusive.

 

[VikingKing]

Make her think you are the sh!t. Paint a picture, but do it indirectly.

When she looks up to you sooooo much. She will want to follow you, and stick to you.

 

[Don-Kong]

No one knows what this chick is in to. SHe might like the open, tell me your feelings caring guy.

Dont try to be someone you are not. Its happened. This is good.
You could tell her that she would make a great girlfriend for reasons x, y, z.
Plant it in there and gauge her reaction. If she gets weird, then you will have at least some evidence, it may even get her thinking about you as a boyfriend.
She might even say, "im not girlfriend material" or a whole bunch of other stuff. See where it takes you