"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How to get a girlfriend.

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I'm in a position in my life, where I'm happy. I work 2 jobs. I cook meals. I do my own banking, I'm managing my own finances, and discovering that I am slowly getting ahead rather then behind. I'm promoting my personal business as tech support, and best of all, I'm single.

As much as you deny it, a lot of you suggest to yourselves that if you got a girlfriend, you'll be happier. Well, what if you were to turn that around. If you were happier, then you'd get a girlfriend?

Funny as that sounds, it's entirely true. Because it's not for the actual getting of a girlfriend that will make you happy, it's your lifestyle and how you enjoy it that makes you happy. I was alone when I moved out into the real world after New Years. Sometimes a little sad that I didn't have a friend to really hang out with, or a girl to get to know. Now, a month and a half past New Years, I discovered that a idle mind leads to bad thoughts, but I worked so much that it didn't really matter. Nowadays, I keep myself really busy. I hang out with a few people from work, and I talk to girls every so often, but does it affect me that I'm running a solo life? Nah.

I have a lot of day to day drama, and really, it's kind of fun to deal with. Waking up at god-forsaken stupid hours, getting home in the afternoon, passing out the rest of the day, working at night fighting traffic and people. Financial problems, solutions. The little things that make your day, from someone saying Hello, to a good tip from your work. Interesting I think.

The time for a girlfriend will come, whether it's by sheer luck (See the C&F Theory in the signature), by me picking them up one day, or it just happens. I'm happy right now, and that's what is important to me, and what should be important to you too.

Closing notes, a girlfriend should be at the bottom of your life list, and doing things you enjoy that keep you busy and content should be at the extreme top. :up:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Everything you said in this post is right on regardless of what anybody else has to say.

A relationship is like having another job, just you lose income rather than acquiring it. Of course, you meet a girl you're really into, by all means. It's always best to be stable first. Sounds like that's what you've got going.
 
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