How to get a girl to invest more?

[thelws]

Need some advice here.

Situation:
We live apart. About 5 hours apart so it is a slightly long distance relationship thing. We do live in different countries but both near the border so it really isn't too far away.

Been dating this girl about 2 times. On the 3rd date she came visit me with some of her friends. Already scheduling a 4th and future dates. Things seem fine but I'm beginning to invest much more than her.

The issue here is It has always been me who initiates the dates. It is me who always goes and meet her. (except for that 1 time where she came to visit me) I'm investing time and money to do this but I'm not getting enough mileage out of her time. She doesn't have "much time" on dates and can be quite busy.

Now I know when a girl is flaking and she doesn't come of like that. However I need to get her to invest in me more. I realize the attraction phase wasn't wildly successful hence I'm having this issue but at least I got half the job done.

I'm at the stage where I'm srsly considering marriage and this girl fits my definition of marriage material. Any ideas on how I can get her to invest in me more?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Thelws,
Just relax and let things flow....human affairs have a certain predictability....Just like chemical reactions really....so the chemicals have been thrown into the crucible,just sit back and watch.

 

[thirdtimescharm]

Attraction is not a choice. Falling in love is.

If marriage is something you want here, do you really think you can somehow game her into wanting it with you? You have a lot of work to do with a 5 hour distance. Time is the only way to find out who she really is, unless you are living in faerie land.

 

[women haze]

Man to be honest with you...Form someone who has been there. Long distance relationships RARELY work. I take tremendous efforts from both parties involved....and if one person is slacking It will fizzle like your old Aunt's *****.

Why can't you find anyone local/ i am sure there are those that meet your criteria closer to you. If it's something in you confidence wise you have GOT to retool and work on it.....

I know where you are coming from brother I spent a year of my life invested in a Long term relationship that didn't work out in the end....

 

[boomerick]

The

Jesus Christ!!!.....slow down!!!!.....

First of all go to the bottom of this page and click on the DJ Bible link .....

Read Pook and Antidump and, well, everything.......

You are making fundamental mistakes which will hurt you emotionally and lose you the girl.....(that you seem to be pedistalizing and chasing by the way) = FAIL.....

Pook and Antidump are good starting points.......

Then google search "citizen renegade" and read as much roissy as you can.....("16 commandments of poon" to start)......

After that, google search "marriage 2.0" and read as much as you can stand (prior to becomming physically ill)......

Invest just a few hours in yourself......to find out the truth

Once you have done this see if you would even bother to ask the questions you posted........

Educate yourself troop.....you're tryin' to storm a machine gun nest without weapons or basic training....

Over and Out.