"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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how to get a girl back to your place

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i have never really invited girls to come over. I always went to their place but

now that i have my own room in college I want to know how do you know when

she is comfortable with coming to your room and how do u invite her without

her thinking that all i want is sex.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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GQzSwagStarFamous said:
i have never really invited girls to come over. I always went to their place but

now that i have my own room in college I want to know how do you know when

she is comfortable with coming to your room and how do u invite her without

her thinking that all i want is sex.
There's not really any way of knowing when she's comfortable. It's just a matter of asking her to come by. If you're out drinking and the party is ending, tell her you want to stop by your place for a few drinks. If you bring up some movie she likes, tell her you want her to come by and watch that movie. You'll know she's comfortable when she says, "Yes."

And once she's there, don't be shy about anything. Despite all our clever tricks, these girls know why we're inviting them over. It's just that it sounds nicer to say, "Come by. We'll have a few drinks." than "Hey, let's go back to my place and bang."
 

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Iceberg said:
these girls know why we're inviting them over.
yes they know whats happening
you just gotta be confident with it, often even a "lets get out of here" is enough...or a "lets go back to mine"

There's not really any way of knowing when she's comfortable.
the body language should be obvious
 
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