Ok DJ's need some help here.
First a little background. Ive recently come out of a LTR (18 months) that was very problematic and ended quite badly, I ended it and was relieved to move on. After a month or so of not really bothering with chicks I figured it was time to get back in the game.
Anyway. Theres this chick Ive known for a long time. I know her through mutual friends and Im friends with her cousin, as long as Ive known her shes always been with the same guy. The thing is we've always had a 'vibe', shes always flirted with me on some level and always show a degree of interest in me. It was never anything significant as she always seemed happy in her relationship but we both knew there was a spark between us.
I dont have her phone number or anything but am friends with her on Facebook. Anyway I was posting a facebook status about a cool bar I went to and she commented about how we should go sometime, she wasnt clearly asking me on a date as she suggested she would bring her friend but nontheless she suggested we go. Importantly at the time I was still in my LTR and figured my gf probably wouldnt be happy if I went out with a load of chicks she didnt know (also a part of me knew that maybe it would lead to something) so I kinda agreed to go one time but never made any suggestion as to when and basically just didnt follow it up
A few weeks later I learned (when I was still in my LTR) that she had split up from her boyfriend of 5 years a few months before. Fast forward a month or so and she starts chatting on facebook about using snapchat, I got her username and we began snapchatting back and forward (a few times a week we would send each other snapchats). Now bear in mind I was still in my LTR at this point so didnt really do anything towards attracting this girl. Basically it was just the usual friendly snapchats Id send my friends.
Now heres where it gets interesting. My LTR quickly came to and end (it had been coming for a while) so I ramped up the snapchatting with this chick. Over the course of say the past 3 weeks I started snapchatting with her regularly (pretty much every day and at least 3 times a day). Again it was all relatively innocent silly snapchatting stuff. It came to a point where I was snapchatting with her say 10/15 times a day every day. I figured at this point it was time to ramp up the game and I felt like I needed to get back into dating so this was a good a chance as any. As you can imagine by this point I figured she must be interested as she was snapchatting me a lot. However I learned through a friend that said chick and her friends are all basically snapchat addicts and I realised that most of the snapchats she was sending wernt just for me (not all but a good 70%). It seems she just sending the same snapchat to all her friends (me included). I played a long with this (note: snapchat game is tough and something Im not quite used to yet) before deciding I need to really make some sort of moves.
Anyway the past few days Ive upped the ante. Previously the snapchats Id been sending where all just silly stuff (although I was making an effort to send pics of me in cool places and make it look like I had a lot going on in my life, which I do) but Ive started to send more direct ones telling her she looks nice, teasing her abit and all.
My game is very very rusty and although Ive always had decent enough game and no real problem getting hot chicks (my last LTR was a knockout) I still feel as if I need some practice to get back on form.
Now heres my problem. Snapchat in general as good a tool as it may be for gaming a chick, alone (without number for txt or calling) its just not enough. Sure combined with txt game it would be cool but just snapchat alone isnt enough. So how do I go about getting a date with this chick?? Truth be know Im weary of outright asking her as Im concerned that shes not really interested and is just snapchatting me the same as shes snapchatting her other friends. Also the situation requires I proceed with caution as given we have a lot of mutual friends and her ex is friends with my friends it could go very wrong if Im reading the situation wrong and I get rejected by her. Normally in this sort of situation Id just snapchat her my number but my confidence isnt at its highest at the moment and Im not sure it would be a good idea.
So guys what do I do?
Should I just carry on snapchatting (which im getting tired of) but maybe step the game right up and gauge the situation?? Should I slow down on the snapchatting and see how she responds?? Or should I just casually snapchat her my number telling her to let me know when shes heading to this cool bar we talked about??
Its worth pointing out shes really hot and will no doubt have plenty of other guys circling her. Also worth pointing Im not entirely sure she knows my LTR is over. She is sending me relatively flirty snapchats at times and hasnt gone cold after Ive sent flirty ones but I still get the feeling shes just sending me snapchats she sends to all her friends. I do think theres a possibility she doesnt know im single again, or that shes weary of getting involved with someone so newly single or that her own game is just rusty too.
Any help much appreciated for a very rusty gamer who needs some tips on getting back in the game again.
BTW if theres one thing Ive learned from this its that snapchat alone is awful for gaming chicks.
First a little background. Ive recently come out of a LTR (18 months) that was very problematic and ended quite badly, I ended it and was relieved to move on. After a month or so of not really bothering with chicks I figured it was time to get back in the game.
Anyway. Theres this chick Ive known for a long time. I know her through mutual friends and Im friends with her cousin, as long as Ive known her shes always been with the same guy. The thing is we've always had a 'vibe', shes always flirted with me on some level and always show a degree of interest in me. It was never anything significant as she always seemed happy in her relationship but we both knew there was a spark between us.
I dont have her phone number or anything but am friends with her on Facebook. Anyway I was posting a facebook status about a cool bar I went to and she commented about how we should go sometime, she wasnt clearly asking me on a date as she suggested she would bring her friend but nontheless she suggested we go. Importantly at the time I was still in my LTR and figured my gf probably wouldnt be happy if I went out with a load of chicks she didnt know (also a part of me knew that maybe it would lead to something) so I kinda agreed to go one time but never made any suggestion as to when and basically just didnt follow it up
A few weeks later I learned (when I was still in my LTR) that she had split up from her boyfriend of 5 years a few months before. Fast forward a month or so and she starts chatting on facebook about using snapchat, I got her username and we began snapchatting back and forward (a few times a week we would send each other snapchats). Now bear in mind I was still in my LTR at this point so didnt really do anything towards attracting this girl. Basically it was just the usual friendly snapchats Id send my friends.
Now heres where it gets interesting. My LTR quickly came to and end (it had been coming for a while) so I ramped up the snapchatting with this chick. Over the course of say the past 3 weeks I started snapchatting with her regularly (pretty much every day and at least 3 times a day). Again it was all relatively innocent silly snapchatting stuff. It came to a point where I was snapchatting with her say 10/15 times a day every day. I figured at this point it was time to ramp up the game and I felt like I needed to get back into dating so this was a good a chance as any. As you can imagine by this point I figured she must be interested as she was snapchatting me a lot. However I learned through a friend that said chick and her friends are all basically snapchat addicts and I realised that most of the snapchats she was sending wernt just for me (not all but a good 70%). It seems she just sending the same snapchat to all her friends (me included). I played a long with this (note: snapchat game is tough and something Im not quite used to yet) before deciding I need to really make some sort of moves.
Anyway the past few days Ive upped the ante. Previously the snapchats Id been sending where all just silly stuff (although I was making an effort to send pics of me in cool places and make it look like I had a lot going on in my life, which I do) but Ive started to send more direct ones telling her she looks nice, teasing her abit and all.
My game is very very rusty and although Ive always had decent enough game and no real problem getting hot chicks (my last LTR was a knockout) I still feel as if I need some practice to get back on form.
Now heres my problem. Snapchat in general as good a tool as it may be for gaming a chick, alone (without number for txt or calling) its just not enough. Sure combined with txt game it would be cool but just snapchat alone isnt enough. So how do I go about getting a date with this chick?? Truth be know Im weary of outright asking her as Im concerned that shes not really interested and is just snapchatting me the same as shes snapchatting her other friends. Also the situation requires I proceed with caution as given we have a lot of mutual friends and her ex is friends with my friends it could go very wrong if Im reading the situation wrong and I get rejected by her. Normally in this sort of situation Id just snapchat her my number but my confidence isnt at its highest at the moment and Im not sure it would be a good idea.
So guys what do I do?
Should I just carry on snapchatting (which im getting tired of) but maybe step the game right up and gauge the situation?? Should I slow down on the snapchatting and see how she responds?? Or should I just casually snapchat her my number telling her to let me know when shes heading to this cool bar we talked about??
Its worth pointing out shes really hot and will no doubt have plenty of other guys circling her. Also worth pointing Im not entirely sure she knows my LTR is over. She is sending me relatively flirty snapchats at times and hasnt gone cold after Ive sent flirty ones but I still get the feeling shes just sending me snapchats she sends to all her friends. I do think theres a possibility she doesnt know im single again, or that shes weary of getting involved with someone so newly single or that her own game is just rusty too.
Any help much appreciated for a very rusty gamer who needs some tips on getting back in the game again.
BTW if theres one thing Ive learned from this its that snapchat alone is awful for gaming chicks.
